Ask Dan & Jennifer

So, here's the thing:

Can you change what happened with your girlfriend and her ex-boyfriend?
Can she travel back in time and not have sex with him?
Is there anything at all you or her can do to change the fact that she had sex with this other guy?

Unless, you have super powers, I'm guessing the answer is most definite NO

So, the real problem isn't that she has already had sex with someone else or that her ex-boyfriend is a jerk. The problem lies within you and it's something that you'll need to fix yourself.

Usually, when guys have feelings of jealousy it's because they are not confident in themselves.

So how do you fix it? That's a tough question and will likely involve much personal introspection. The easy answer is to simply "not give a sh*t" about external forces and focus on you!

Hope that helps:)

Originally posted by: modernsavage

So how do you fix it? That's a tough question and will likely involve much personal introspection. The easy answer is to simply "not give a sh*t" about external forces and focus on you!
Hope that helps:)

Spoken with true arrogance...

LOL - Ironically this is just the kind of attitude that you need! When you stop letting other peoples opinions, attitudes, and actions affect your self worth, nothing that anyone does can bother you.

In turn you will then stop trying to control others - jealousy is very much an emotion of control and fear.

Amen to modernsavage and Dan and Jen.

Coulda, woulda, shoulda. You're losing sleep over something totally irrelevant and the only way to asset yourself in this situation is to stop thinking about what she did with some other guy and start enjoying the sex and gaining confidence in the bedroom.

I hate to throw a monkey wrench in the works but what if she's not 'the one' and you have to be with other sexual partners? Are you only going to be with virgins? Are you gonna lose your mind with every woman wondering what she did?

I suggest that you drop the issue as you are dooming your relationship. Complaining about this now is like closing the door after the horse has bolted. You knew where she'd been before, so if you were that concerned about you not being her first, why go there and give you and her a hard time over things?

Lay back and enjoy yourself. You can't change a damn thing that has happened so the energy you're expending is futile and could be better spent pleasuring her and yourself!

I realize it must hurt knowing your girlfriend had her special moment with another (who was quite undeserving from what you've said), but there's nothing you can do about that. Just think about this: she's with you now and she loves you. I hate to suggest this, but if your still angry seek some professional counseling.