Im in love with my best gal friend, but only because shes showing signs of intrest

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 2 years ago

I went for coffee with my bff, shes awesome we do everything together, like hangout once a week! Well i havnt seen her for a long time in the past 2 weeks, so I said we should do coffee on the thursday night! So we did coffee, I picked her up and we went to the coffee shop, and just talked, see what was new with each other. And She was looking into my eyes for a short burst, then would look away and as the night went on, hour later she was holding her eyes into mine so long that I was looking away and we started asking more in depth questions as if we wanted to get to know each other deeper. Also she was leaning over the table towards me, legs were crossed with toes pointed at me, and at one point rubbing her earings. So hour n half later I drove her home, ready for the friendly hug when shes like "if i dont hug you you'll text me looking for it" (i usually do sarcasticly) So i also asked what you doing saturday, she said nothing, so Im like wanna do a movie? shes like Sure let you know! Saturday night we did the movie i drove again, and was too shy to put my arm around her, and after we did the high five and when she released she rubbed her fingers down my palm!!! I txtd her 2mins later "lets do coffee again" shes like "ok sure" Now I keep asking her to hang w/o asking her on a date, and we txt alot! should I ask her out, and how! (she also never talks about her bf's around me when she has them, and is super shy about relationships around me) I sware she likes me!

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Xero

Re: Im in love with my best gal friend, but only because shes showing signs of intrest

2 years ago

I would ask her while going out for coffee.

It does sound like she likes you.

The best thing I think you should say is "I really like you, would you like to go out with me?". It's directly to the point and is a confident statement. I think she would like that one the most. At least from the way you describe her.

hilaryduf..

ya I may try the dinner date

2 years ago

shes also hard to get to hangout with, always busy with work and her friends hehe, I might just text her sunday and say "hey wanna go out for dinner with me someday this week, lets say wed." since I dont always see her in person sometimes because shes so busy

Xero

Re: Im in love with my best gal friend, but only because shes showing signs of intrest

2 years ago

That sounds like a good idea.

Let me give you a word of caution.

If you guys do get into a relationship you need to understand that she may be busy and not always available. Also understand that everyone needs their own space her and there. If you chase someone too much they will pull away because you need to give them some leeway. Let them chase as well.

Things may also be a bit complex due to the work and other things that cant be controlled by one person. Be understanding. Also try to just listen to her problems, studies show that women love to be listened to.

I'm just telling you this becasue you seem pretty sound of mind and want things to work. I completely understand. Just be prepared for things that are beyond your control and hers, just be ready to try and take these challenges head on and to make the best of things. Things like the stated above go awry all the time on here.

So understanding these things helps out a lot before hand.

Good Luck, and keep us updated.

hilaryduf..

forsure

2 years ago

ya Im not going to text her prob till saturday now! i do have a habbit of txtn her alot, but its all just fun convo, like how are you and stuff. The friendship is to the point where like shes doing yoga mayb friday, and I say "ill go with you can't find anyone" then shes like "ok" n stuff like that, or for a trip Id say Ill join ya, or she say she'd go with. but ya i hope it works, if shes busy I may just say ok, umm... then i get stuck, maybe pick a day that would work for her to

hilaryduf..

we went to the bar

2 years ago

I dunno if it means anything, I was out at the night club with some friends last night and I told this gal to come, and when their me her and her friend bret were sitting at the table, she asked him to dance (their good friends) and left me sitting their.... then later on i danced with her and halfway though the song she let go and deicided we shouldnt dance, so we went to get water and I just left to the bar next door where my bros were at, im sure shes just playing me these past 2 outtings now!