Is 15 too young to start bondage?

in Sex and Intimacy » BDSM - Bondage, Domination, Submission • 2 years ago

Hi
Ok, I'm a 15-year-old guy, I live in the UK and I've been into bondage for a few years now. Anyway, some time ago i started to realise that having bondage fantasies wasn't going to be enough for me, so I started going on random chatrooms to look for someone who would attempt bondage with me

Surprisingly (and after a lot of time on chatrooms), I managed to find a girl at the beginning of the year who shared my interests and lived fairly close to me. We started talking and after a month or 2, we agreed to meet and try a bondage scene (with oral, fingering, various other light bondage-related activies), but when she got to my house, she became nervous and didn't wanna do it, so i took her back and she went home. This was in April

Since then, we've talked a lot more about anything that might be relevant (such as past experiences, limits, likes/dislikes etc.), discussed why she was nervous, and generally got to know each other better and we've agreed to give it another go and we're going to meet up again and she's assured me that she'll try not to be nervous, so i'm willing to give it another go

So, my question is this: is 15 too young to be doing this? there'll be no (penetrative) sex (at least not on the first meeting. plus we're both 15) and even if we were to start having sex, it'd definitely be protected...
any comments or feedback are appreciated :)

Replies(6)

Xero

Re: Is 15 too young to start bondage?

2 years ago

What is the legal law for sex in the UK?

I know for the US I believe it's legal if two minors go at it.

**Disclaimer** Either way you have already made your decision and I'm only giving advice on what I see. I intend in no way to persuade you in either direction.

I personally think if you are of age and able to handle the situation(if there was a child to come from it) then yes you should be able to do what you want. It shouldn't be a problem as long as you are not hurting anyone. By this I mean mentally or physically but bondage has its own little way.

Be careful and use a condom. Remember any ORAL ANAL or VAGINAL sex can result in an STD. This also happens with any fluid to fluid contact.

If you break any law then that is your choice I don't want you to but it's your life.

darkmist

Re: Is 15 too young to start bondage?

2 years ago

You can never be too young to find out your sexual preferences. But you might be too young to be mentally prepared to act on them or any other sexual act.

bri_bri89..

Go for it.....

2 years ago

If its legal where you live (two minors in the US isn't statutory) then go for it. While you may be physically and bodily ready, you may not be mentally ready. If you are tyed up you might get really scared and want to stop. After sex, you could feel abused or sad.... but if you think you ready go for no more than handcuffs the first time to get ready to the idea of bondage:D

darkmist

Re: Is 15 too young to start bondage?

2 years ago

I agree with POM. Have a safe word (which is very important) and don´t push your self. Expand your limitations when you feel ready. And educate your self and your partner before acting on any hard core desires. Discussing wishes/dreams/desires are important in a regular sexual relationship, but even more so in BDSM since it is possible to hurt one another.

scarbowl

Re: Is 15 too young to start bondage?

2 years ago

My opinion - you're young. Wait a few years. You don't need to push your sexual boundaries this young. The idea that "you're never too young" is misguided. You're only 15 and you probably shouldn't be even having sex.

That said, there's a lot to learn about one another's bodies and pleasing each other that doesn't involve bondage. There's no hurry to explore the fetish side.

Beagle

Re: Is 15 too young to start bondage?

2 years ago

Originally posted by: darkmist
I agree with POM. Have a safe word (which is very important) and don´t push your self. Expand your limitations when you feel ready. And educate your self and your partner before acting on any hard core desires. Discussing wishes/dreams/desires are important in a regular sexual relationship, but even more so in BDSM since it is possible to hurt one another.

I must say I'm concerned with this because of your age and both of you being inexperienced, but I realize you're probably going to go ahead with it so I want you to be as safe as possible.

You are getting very good advice here. I don't have any problem with role playing, but due to your inexperience I would encourage you to stay away from the hardcore activities, such as asphyxiation (choking or smothering) or immersion (pretend drowning). There are cases of unintentional fatalities resulting from those activities.

A safe word is a signal that is used to let the partner know that the person is really in distress, not just pretending. This is very important since pretending to be in distress or saying "stop" are often part of BDSM play. A safe word really mean's "stop."

There are cases of people failing to start normal breathing after playing "space monkey" or "the pass-out game, " activities that cause people to pass out by disrupting breathing. I would encourage you to stay away from anything involving the neck or mouth as well as anything that restricts breathing. Remember, anything around the ribcage can make a person unable to breathe. Frankly, there are many activities that can be enjoyed with very little risk, such as gently binding someone's hands with a bandana. Take it slow.