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Hi all (and Season's Greetings btw), this may be long so forgive me...
I am so confused at present. I like a guy at work. He is 47 and single I am 42 and single. I have liked him now for about 3 months and have slowly gotten to know him and chat to him etc (he is very much a loner/shyish guy so it has been interesting to 'get him out of his shell' if you know what I mean)
My problem is he acts like he really really likes me...stares at me constantly, looks me right in the eye for long time when talking to me,always approaches me first to talk etc etc but even though I have dropped hints nothing has happened.
He doesn't bother with other women at work like he does with me so as a result of that some of his co-workers tease him when they see him chatting to me.
Somedays I am about to give up and think he is not interested but then he will be 'all over me' (as if he has missed me) when I return to work after my days off.
I've tried saying things like 'it would be great to check out that blues band' (we share a love of the same music) or 'it would be interesting to see you out of work/partying etc' but he says nothing to that and I then feel rejected....but his behaviour says otherwise...please help.... I am so confused....is he blowing hot and cold?Is he shy?Is he just being friendly?...If he is just being friendly well why all the staring etc
(Btw I don't want to ask him out...I want HIM to ask me..I'm tired of 'chasing' guys y'know?...done it too often now its my turn to be wooed.)
Should I back off? Be a bit more distant?Stop being so friendly and approachable?
I must add that he is very much a sort of 'bachelor' guy who has never married and likes his own space...BUT I do too and I have never married and am a loner so I 'get' that lifestyle and understand totally if he ain't into dating BUT why the flirting signals from him?Am I reading it wrong here?
Thankyou so much anyone who can help x
I am so confused at present. I like a guy at work. He is 47 and single I am 42 and single. I have liked him now for about 3 months and have slowly gotten to know him and chat to him etc (he is very much a loner/shyish guy so it has been interesting to 'get him out of his shell' if you know what I mean)
My problem is he acts like he really really likes me...stares at me constantly, looks me right in the eye for long time when talking to me,always approaches me first to talk etc etc but even though I have dropped hints nothing has happened.
He doesn't bother with other women at work like he does with me so as a result of that some of his co-workers tease him when they see him chatting to me.
Somedays I am about to give up and think he is not interested but then he will be 'all over me' (as if he has missed me) when I return to work after my days off.
I've tried saying things like 'it would be great to check out that blues band' (we share a love of the same music) or 'it would be interesting to see you out of work/partying etc' but he says nothing to that and I then feel rejected....but his behaviour says otherwise...please help.... I am so confused....is he blowing hot and cold?Is he shy?Is he just being friendly?...If he is just being friendly well why all the staring etc
(Btw I don't want to ask him out...I want HIM to ask me..I'm tired of 'chasing' guys y'know?...done it too often now its my turn to be wooed.)
Should I back off? Be a bit more distant?Stop being so friendly and approachable?
I must add that he is very much a sort of 'bachelor' guy who has never married and likes his own space...BUT I do too and I have never married and am a loner so I 'get' that lifestyle and understand totally if he ain't into dating BUT why the flirting signals from him?Am I reading it wrong here?
Thankyou so much anyone who can help x
