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OK guys, many of you are going to literally get pissed off at me for this post, but I do not feel that it's OK to be over weight. It's unhealthy and has been proven to significantly shorten your life span - just like smoking, and other unhealthy habits. If you are over weight, you need to seek professional help to get it resolved and take your life back NOW!
I'm a huge fan of "The Biggest Loser" - it's the only reality show worth watching because they are truly giving people their lives back.
I got the following email from a woman who felt that we were being unfair to overweight women in one of our videos.
On top of the email chastising us for our views on being overweight, this person had the nerve to refer me to this website: National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance website at www.naafa.org
Look, I'm not going to make fun of someone whose overweight and agree that people should not be discriminated against for their weight - we all have our life challenges to deal with but I will not accept being fat - it's dangerous, it's unhealthy, it's a huge drain on your self confidence, it can significantly reduce your life span, it's totally abusive to your body.
So here's my question (leave a comment and answer it honestly).
Oh and keep you answers about you. This is not the place to make fun of others.
Me, I feel way less sexy even if I gain just 5 pounds - I can only imaging what 40-100 pounds would do to my self confidence. Dan is the same way. It's not that we put too much focus on outer appearances, it's that we literally don't feel well when we put on extra weight - we feel sluggish and lethargic.
Here's the email that I received this morning:
I'm a huge fan of "The Biggest Loser" - it's the only reality show worth watching because they are truly giving people their lives back.
I got the following email from a woman who felt that we were being unfair to overweight women in one of our videos.
On top of the email chastising us for our views on being overweight, this person had the nerve to refer me to this website: National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance website at www.naafa.org
Look, I'm not going to make fun of someone whose overweight and agree that people should not be discriminated against for their weight - we all have our life challenges to deal with but I will not accept being fat - it's dangerous, it's unhealthy, it's a huge drain on your self confidence, it can significantly reduce your life span, it's totally abusive to your body.
So here's my question (leave a comment and answer it honestly).
Do you feel more sexy with or without a few extra pounds?
Oh and keep you answers about you. This is not the place to make fun of others.
Me, I feel way less sexy even if I gain just 5 pounds - I can only imaging what 40-100 pounds would do to my self confidence. Dan is the same way. It's not that we put too much focus on outer appearances, it's that we literally don't feel well when we put on extra weight - we feel sluggish and lethargic.
Here's the email that I received this morning:
First off I would like to say how much I enjoy your site. I love your fresh take on sex and how open and accepting you are of various lifestyles. Overall your site sends such a positive message about being comfortable with whom and what you are as an individual. I came across your site while looking for information on BDSM. I found your site to be empowering and helpful everything not only I was looking for but also as a teaching tool for the college aged students I work with. Working in higher education I have found that a number of my students had yet to receive any kind of useful sex education. Therefore I took it upon myself to reach out to my students and teach them as much as I could about safer sex practices and not to feel ashamed of their bodies and the pleasure they can bring.
With that being said I wanted to bring your attention to a video which was quite disheartening to watch. In the video “How do I know if I'm a Nympho” a women asked a question about being a nymphomaniac. Part of the women’s question addressed her recent weight loss. I have to say some of the comments made by both of you during the start of that video were extremely biased. Being a plus sized woman in today’s society can be a daily assault on your self confidence. I can only hope that your comments were not meant to be harmful in any way as I have found all of your other videos to be but I felt that I must address this in order to stay true to my own convictions. With so many women today suffering from issues of body image I feel that it is extremely important to note that while the comments you made in the video may not have been meant as a commentary on being “fat” they can be taken as such. Here are some of the comments that were made:
“if your overweight…you don’t feel like having sex of all things” – this is a false assumption based on the idea that if your fat you shouldn’t feel sexy or proud of your body
“even if they did have a sexual outlet they probably couldn’t do a whole lot” – just because someone’s body size does not match societies view of “normal” aka “right” does not constitute a commentary on their health or ability to be sexually active
After dropping 300 pounds “you probably feel sexy and attractive for the 1st time in your life” – again another false assumption that fat people can’t feel sexy just by being themselves
These are just a few of the more concerning comments there were made and my responses to them. I implore you to revisit some of your thinking towards fat people. Please do not marginalize or dismiss this population in your work. We are one of the populations that need the most support in feeling comfortable with our sexuality and our bodies. For more information please see the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance website at www.naafa.org .
You can love me or hate me for this email, but I'm just being honest about my feelings on the topic of being overweight/obese. I'm not making fun of any one - just encouraging people to get healthy
