Ask Dan & Jennifer

I feel for you! :( I'm in a long distance relationship (soon to be a regular 'close distance relationship' he's moving up here) and have experienced these feelings too. What I would first suggest, if you aren't already doing so, is talk to this girl; be open and honest about your feelings, thoughts, concerns, fears, and also it will help make sure you guys are on the same page. Communication will solve so many problems. I don't think you will ruin her life, think about it, worst comes to worst(which I hope it wouldn't) she moves back to New York. You say you're also afraid because you don't know how long it would last. Well, you'll really never know if you don't give it a shot! No one starts a relationship knowing if it'll last or not (we aren't psychic). You have to try it out! :D Overall, don't let your fears take over you. Do you want to wonder 10 years from now where she is and what she's doing, and regret not giving it a shot? Basically jump into it with enthusiasm and energy, don't let love slip threw your hands because of doubts and fears. Of course, this is just my opinion and how I would handle the situation. Whatever happens I hope you end up happy :)