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At 14, you can't really hide your life from your parents. If you buy/obtain a toy they WILL find it and that will be embarrassing for you and maybe for them as well.

I suggest you just use your hand until you are 18. It works fine, right? Or find a friend to help! :)

Try becoming more sexually educated about yourself with just your hand for now. Explore different ways of pleasuring yourself without the aid of an instrument. I'd say go into more advanced things like toys once your have a stronger understanding of your body and are older.

I find it odd that members advise girls to purchase a toy online but tell this boy to used his fist. There is no reason that he should not be able to get one online using a debit card.

Originally posted by: hartbiker
I find it odd that members advise girls to purchase a toy online but tell this boy to used his fist. There is no reason that he should not be able to get one online using a debit card.

Well, online purchases are almost entirely credit card only. Also I probably wouldn't advise that anybody uses toys until they have a strong understanding of their own body, and good sexual knowledge especially when they're that young.

I dont have anything against a male or female buying/using toys. I know that every state has different laws, but I am pretty sure that a 14yr old does not have a depit card nor a credit card. Even with that said, some states do not allow anyone under the age of 18 to even purchase a toy from an adult store.

I think he also has to consider his parents reaction. Let's remember, he is still a dependent minor. Some parents would literally throw their kid out in the street if they found a sex toy. I'm just not comfortable telling a 14-year-old to go behind his parents' back. That could backfire very badly.

In your situation, an answer could be to ask a friend who is 18+ to buy one for you. But even if that happens, you now have to worry about how to keep it hidden from your parents. The real challenge is probably the latter.

I'm surprised this hasn't been posted already, but I suggest just using things at home until you are old enough to buy one, in my area it's 18.

I have heard of people using an old pillow, inbetween the cushions (of course have something to catch the "jizz"), a stuffed animal with a hole in it, a latex glove (if you're not allergic or anything) with some sort of lubrication in it. I have also heard of a banana peel.

Also, I can't remember what it's called but there something where you like sit on your hand and make it numb, then do it. It's supposed to feel like a stranger or something.

That's all I can think of, but just as long as you are careful, there are many more things you can use. ;)

Best of luck to you,
Nicole

Haha Nicole, as soon as I read your post, I thought of THAT scene in American Pie. For anyone who has seen the movie and don't know what I'm talking about, here's a hint: Apple pie.

Hey if you want to use an apple pie, go for it. ;) lol

Nicole

Well, it did work for Jim. I wouldn't be surprised if there are guys out there who have tried it after watching that movie.

I did find the last few posts kind of humorous; however, I would not suggest that someone use furniture, stuffed animals nor food to pleasure themselves. One of the reasons I would not suggest this is because it can cause problems in their later life.

I know you are saying to yourself, and how can it cause problems? Just think about it........ Ok done thinking about it!

I have heard of so many people being screwed up sexually because of doing food, stuffed animals etc. I wouldn’t want someone to do a stuffed animal just to grow an interest for a real animal.... don’t you think that has happened?

There have been people arrested for having sex with furniture as well, it started out when they were young, then they had to have new excitement by going out and screwing other peoples lawn furniture... I know its funny right? But it’s real!

I happen to think that a stable young man can masturbate with whatever he wants and it will not screw him up for the rest of his life.

I do think people should use masturbators since that is what they are disigned for. But I disagree with you saying that he shouldn't use other things because you think he will grow fond of doing things with animals.

Nicole

I am not saying that he "will" grow fond of doing animals. I am just saying that is not something I would suggest to a 14yr old boy. I dont see a problem and a 14yr old boy using his hand and oil, lotion, spit...

Sorry if I offended you.

Im dying to get a masturbator but i dont want my parents to find out. Help?

He said he wants a masturbator, probably because he's bored with his hand. I see not problem with him using his hand either. However, most of the advice he received was to wait until he was 18 to get a masturbator, which I agree with.

So I see nothing wrong with him getting other options. I am a female so I only know these other ways of masturbating from males...young males that have grown up to be nice, very stable, men.

Nicole

Oh, and you didn't offend me.

We can agree to disagree ;)

Nicole

I don't see anything wrong with using food or other objects to pleasure themselves unless they're breaking the law in anyone or hurting someone in the process (including the person who's doing it).

I'm a man but I know there are many women out there who have used bananas and cucumbers to "practice" with. Either deep throating or using them to masturbate. I highly doubt that every single one of those women have become sexually unstable in some way because they decided to use food instead of their hands or vibrators.

Originally posted by: Nova
Haha Nicole, as soon as I read your post, I thought of THAT scene in American Pie. For anyone who has seen the movie and don't know what I'm talking about, here's a hint: Apple pie.

I saw that movie ages ago. But I thought they were talking about putting their finger into the pie to see how it felt to finger a girl. Of course, this was the "edited for television" version. In the original, did they actually put their =====> into the pie? LOL.

Originally posted by: Snow White
I saw that movie ages ago. But I thought they were talking about putting their finger into the pie to see how it felt to finger a girl. Of course, this was the "edited for television" version. In the original, did they actually put their =====> into the pie? LOL.

The R rated version may have that part cut out as well. I know the unrated version has that scene for sure (because that's the one that I have). But to answer your question, that scene does exist. Jim is laying on the kitchen counter top (with his pants down) and the pie under him.....and then his dad walks in on him.

Originally posted by: Krista
I wouldn’t want someone to do a stuffed animal just to grow an interest for a real animal.... don’t you think that has happened?

Originally posted by: Nicole 21

But I disagree with you saying that he shouldn't use other things because you think he will grow fond of doing things with animals.
Nicole

A friend of mine who grew up in farm country says it is quite common for teenage farm boys to have sex with the livestock.

"Little Boy Blue, come show your horn to the sheep in the meadows and the cows in the corn."

Originally posted by: Nova

I'm a man but I know there are many women out there who have used bananas and cucumbers to "practice" with. Either deep throating or using them to masturbate.

Are you sure about that? A lot of women are real bull-slingers about things like that. For example, I have a friend who works in the morgue who likes to make jokes about "riding the stiffs."

Originally posted by: Snow White
Are you sure about that? A lot of women are real bull-slingers about things like that. For example, I have a friend who works in the morgue who likes to make jokes about "riding the stiffs."

Sure. Just go to a porn site. They're there.

I have used a banana on one of my girlfriends. I started with a frozen one and it slowly melted as I worked her with it. I then adde some whipped cream and a few sprinkles and juast a spasl of chocolate sause.

It was the best banana split I ever had. A day or so later she reciprocated using whipped cream, chocolate sauce, sprinkles and strawberries on me.

at 14 its really hard to get a sex toy by your self ....you can get is from the others...and i would suggest you to use some homemade sex toys ...they can be make easily and bring out the more excitement...as compare to the hand job....