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Well, you owe it to him and yourself to be honest with him, even if he doesn't feel for you the way you feel for him.

If you aren't honest, things will get more and more akward for you, until you ruin any friendship you guys once had.

It doesn't matter if he is gay or straight, everything so far is in your head. You are falling for a friend and you don't know if he feels the say way. Talk to him

Good luck

I went through a situation like this, but I was the gay guy.

Just tell him, you can both laugh about it. Just say what my friend said to me.

"Well, since you were honest with me, I guess I should be honest with you."

Trust me, you'll both laugh about it someday.

Originally posted by: crayola
how do i tell him i like him and still be friends and or how do i talk myself out of falling for him?

Crayola, the bolded part of the above statement jumps out at me as something else... would you elaborate on that? It almost seems like a very different question altogether...

Dan

well dan i dont really want to tell him but i feel like i have to but if i could talk myself out of it i could advoid rejection

I was in the same situation. At the time though, he was just on the verge of excepting being gay (or bi, whenever he feels like it). For me it was better to tell. You and I may be different types of people, emotionally. Once I realized there was no chance, it was much easier to spill the beans. ;)

I'm not sure you can make yourself stop liking someone. Perhaps over time, but even the feelings stay if there hasn't been a falling out. Or, you could possess an uncanny ability to control minds?!

Here's the thing about if you want to forget about him~ although if you really do like him, you should probably (according to most people) just tell him

- hormones-- if you REALLY like someone and it's not just a five minute crush, it usually lasts anywhere from a few months to two years (i think~ it was two somethng... :P ). Depending on how long you liked your friend, you could just wait... i guess

- From experience, you can't really just "forget" someone you like-- it's just that you COULD find someone else to like~ best way to "forget" is to focus your attention on something else-- i mean, it's not like you could just ignore it, since you can't, so how else would you forget about something (not just someone you like)?

- actually... that's the only two things i could think of.... yeah...

But you know, good luck if you are going to tell him~ i have a similar situation as you sorta, so i kinda understand how it feels~
It sucks, doesn't it? Well, at least you have a chance~ For me, there was literally no chance and i was STILL in love with that person forever (by the way, im talking about someone else, not the person i like now)

Crayola: There are two ways of expressing your feelings. One is to say what you feel without any expectations. The second is expressing your feelings in an attempt to get the person to respond in a certain way. "I like you, therefore you have to like me back." This is one situation where I'm leaning toward advising you to to share how you feel.