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And he has been unemployed for the last ten months, claims he is attempting to find a job, but I know he's not. I have seen no evidence that he is looking for work. He has not gone to any job fairs, has not spoken of any specific companies and/or positions he has applied for, let alone gone on any interviews. He is currently on unemployment. I know he is waiting for his unemployment to run out, so that he can apply for Social Security (He's 61, I'm 36), move out of his apartment and then move in with me, still drive his fancy Jaguar, wear his fancy designer clothes, and expect me to foot the bill! He isn't looking for a job for himself, but yet has the gall to show me some ads and tell me they look like good second jobs for me! Hey, honey, since when did my career choices become your decision, when you can't even take responsibility for your own? How am I going to have a life if I work two jobs? I already work a full-time, come home to take care of a house, a yard, two cats and myself, and find it stressful at times. He makes comments like, "I knew you were a rich girl. Why don't you send some of that money my way 'cause I'm unemployed." He has said this line so many times, it's no longer a joke to me. He thinks I have money because I am young and working. I may work at a bank, but that doesn't mean I am the bank. I need to break up with this guy. I know he is with me for all the wrong reasons. I am young and still desire marriage and kids. He is divorced, has a daughter who is 28 years old, and thinks kids are "brats". To me, kids are kids, not brats. He has the attitude of "Been there, done that". For me it's, "Wants to be there, wants to do that", but certainly not with this guy. The decision is "Do I want to be possibly changing an old man's diapers in a few years, or do I want to be changing my little baby's diapers in a few years?" I choose the latter. It's much easier and much more enjoyable. How do I tell this guy I want to break it off permanently with him?