My Girlfriend is bothering me for marriage.

in Love and Relationships » Break Up and Divorce • 2 years ago

So I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and she's been badgering me about living together & marriage.

I've told her that I will never get married even if hell freezes over. I told her I don't care if God Himself came down from heaven and appeared to me physically & told me to get married. It aint going to happen.

What is the result? she won't leave. She won't end the relationship. What should I do?

By the way I think it's better for a woman to complain about her boyfriend not wanting to move in with her than it is for her to complain about her boyfriend's living habits after they move in together.

That's why I'm not living with her. As long as I don't live with her she can't complain about my living habits.

I have even saw her browsing at online dating site several times with a guy and there is something cooking between them also.

Replies(3)

nova_danj..

Re: My Girlfriend is bothering me for marriage.

2 years ago

It sounds to me like you don't want to be with her anymore because you're waiting for her to end it with you. Perhaps it's time for you to call it off with her and move on. After all, if she wants to get married and you don't, there's a communication barrier there.

scarbowl

Re: My Girlfriend is bothering me for marriage.

2 years ago

If you didn't want to be with her anymore it isn't that hard to end the relationship. She may find your "message" to be confusing - you don't want to be with her yet you stay with her. So she's taking the most positive interpretation of that.

It sounds as though she lacks self-respect, though. Why would she stay with some guy who not doesn't want to marry her but won't move in with her and says he'll marry her only if "hell freezes over." What kind of a person is this?

Remember the Paul Simon song "50 ways to leave your lover?" Time to listen again, I think.

Beagle

Re: My Girlfriend is bothering me for marriage.

2 years ago

Originally posted by: YourEternalRest
It sounds to me like you don't want to be with her anymore because you're waiting for her to end it with you. Perhaps it's time for you to call it off with her and move on. After all, if she wants to get married and you don't, there's a communication barrier there.

That's exactly the same conclusion I reached. You've made it clear you don't want to be with her. That's what dating is for; for both people to be asking themselves "Is this what I want for the rest of my life?" It sounds like you've answered that question for yourself.