Ask Dan & Jennifer

Well, as your girlfriend, many uncircumsized guys have extra foreskin, or maybe their penis is leaning towards a side, or even maybe it is too little or too big! Human body is not perfect, and will never be. What I am trying to say is that if she feels uncomfortable with it, try make her go to her doctor and ask him if they can remove that piece of extra skin? It should not be a complicated surgical procedure, and well, she will be more confident afterwards.

In the meantime, you can tell her that you love her the way it is and if she needs more time to get used to her body the way it is, you can only be there to support her. At the end you love HER, not her vagina :)

Good luck to the both of you.
-Jean

OK, is she a virgin? This sounds like a hymen . This is nothing to worry about, some girls have one, some don't. If it doesn't hurt her then I wouldn't worry too much. Like Jean said, everyone is built a little different... she's probably never really looked at other girls there before so she doesn't have anything to compare it to. If it really bothers her, I would suggest having her talk to her doctor. The doc can take a look and make sure it's nothing to worry about and then can hopefully ease her mind.

It's not quite the same, but there's a video Dan and Jennifer have put out on the shape of a vagina being.. different...

I doubt that it's "weird" - We're all different in our own ways - that's what makes us special and unique.

We all have the media to thank for the "perfect" female image.

They've got us all thinking that we have to be a size 2 with DD breasts and have absolutely no body hair anywhere... This is "weird"!

Can you imagine how boring it would be if we all looked exactly the same? Ugh!

Having said that, I'm all for cosmetic surgery if it will make her feel confident and more comfortable with her body. I do not feel that women should try to be Barbie dolls, but I also am not against doing what you can to feel better about yourself.

Use caution however because, too much surgery and self criticism is a symptom of deeper issues. Also, remember that there is no such thing as minor surgery - all surgery comes with it's associated risks - weigh them carefully..

I think I know exactly what her problem is!

If I understand correctly, she has a 'septate hymen'. It's when the hymen forms abnormally and it divives the vaginal opening into two, instead of making one smaller circle like normal ones. I have the exact same problem. My boyfriend doesn't mind it one bit though. It's a little awkward if you were to do oral, I suppose. But just reassure her that it's very stretchy and may hurt a bit more if you have sex for the first time (if its her first time as well) or if you finger her, but that it doesn't bother you one bit. it may take her some time to warm up, but eventually she'll let you. =) good luck!

there is surgery to remove it, it's called a hymenectomy (or something of that sort). It can be very expensive, but apparently is relatively simple, as it can be done in the gyno's office in a visit. I would completely advise against cutting it herself, as an infection could occur, causing more problems. Encourage her that if it bothers her to call a gyno and to ask them about it. It really isn't anything to be worried about though.