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Must be because the thought of my girlfriend with another guy just pisses me off.

Hi Railman, congratulations, that's great. No, there's nothing wrong with you or with being excited by thoughts of your wife being sexually aroused without you.

One of the core issues behind many relationship issues today is jealousy, ownership, fear. It feels weird for you because our society encourage jealousy, but that's going away slowly.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, you'd be surprised how often we get questions from men and women about guys' major issues coming to terms that their wife or girlfriend has had sex before them. That's a major insecurity thing that a LOT of guys deal with.

'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/previous-sex-partners-he-asks-too-much'

In fact, further along those lines is the well known sexual fantasy of watching your wife with another man (a surprisingly popular fantasy actually), also known as 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/null', or cuckolding.

Here's the wikipedia definition of cuckold:

A cuckold is a married man whose wife has sex with other men. In current usage it sometimes refers to non-married couples in committed relationships as well, although the traditional meaning is a man whose wife is adulterous...

In medieval Europe, the law, custom, and the church all defined married women as a category of property held by their husbands. Although Christian marriage vows strictly enjoined sexual exclusivity in a marriage for both partners, custom rarely enforced it on the husband

Here's a video we did on 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/null' recently, so you can see our thoughts on it...

Watching My Wife Get Banged By A Well Endowed Man...

And here's a bit of a personal rant on the topic, as a followup to that video: 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/are-all-men-secretly-afraid-of-losing-their-woman-to-a-larger-penis-watch-video-then-comment'

I hate to break it to you, but you're perfectly normal. When you care about someone, it's normal to get excited about their pleasure. Unless you're seventeen, your partner is probably not a virgin. I think it's great you and she can talk about those things without jealously.

For what seemed like forever I have, cause I didnt discuss it with my wife, fantasied and always became sexually aroused by the visualization and sounds of my wife screwing another man or more while I watched.

This all came about while we were watching a porn movie. Now understand my wife if very reluctant to verbalize her feeling and desires about her sexual needs or fantasies. But during the movie she just happen to say, "It might be fun to have sex with two men." Well needless to say that set off the greatest porn movie in my head that might be worth millions on the open market. Well time pasted, a lot of time, and she didnt seem to be either trying to make this happen or provide any further discussion about the subject. Well like they say in Hollywood, "Your film just got canned. And then it happened. We met this couple and later they invited us to a hous party. Well out came my mental porn film and it was hotter than ever. But again my luck turned crappy as the house party was cancelled. But fellow fantasizer, I have not given up cause I truely want this to happen...Why, well I want for her to experience a really wild and satisfing sexual experience, then go home and screw like bunnies. So I've been searhing the net for a vaction spot that would provide an enviroment far grater than a simple house party. I imagin a place that could be entitled. "Couples Sexual Fantasy Island." where the staff would be our sexual playmates. This idea will probably nerver transpire but its letting you know that some of us men have even greater arrousal thoughts about their wife screwing another mae. In closing I would like to thank you and all the other men for owning up and admitting, like you have, that fantasy is definitly not abnormal at all.