My Wife's fantasy

in Sex and Intimacy » Swingers and Threesomes • 3 years ago

We have been happily married for 14 years and she has told me that she fantasizes of being with another woman. I believe this would have happenned by now if it not were for some trust issues on her end. I trust her completely and feel confident enough in our relationship that I would allow more than that if it made her happy. She doesn't want me to touch another woman and we have talked about this to some length and I am fine with that. I love pleasing my wife and have been able to satisfy her without failure. Pleasing her turns me on, I want her to have her fantasy.
How to I go about ensuring her that I am ok with it and she should pursue it if she really wants too without her worrying? Should I try taking her to a "CLUB?" We have mutual friends that I get vibes from when we go out together but I don't know how to ask. They are very attractive and professional and would be great if things escalated further.
Any help for me or is this better left a fantasy for her with her trust issue?:rolleyes:

Replies(5)

scarbowl

Re: My Wife's fantasy

3 years ago

I wouldn't go for it if it is for her only. She wants to experiment but not to allow you to do so. You might feel okay about it at the moment but it is unlikely to continue that way. If she "gets" to do this then you should also participate - not just stand in the room and masturbate. Soft swinging might be a good start - sex in the same room with another couple. Then, later, maybe a swap or a 3-way with another woman. But don't let her do this without your having the opportunity to do the same.

k. in cle..

Re: My Wife's fantasy

3 years ago

I agree with scarbowl. This type os situation is never a good thing to enter into if both parties aren't allowed to have fun. It's one thing if it's a D/s relationship, but if you're equal parts and not subbie to her... then I wouldn't do it. Adding another person to the mix can be a big thing, if everyone isn't appropriately ready for it. And from the sounds of it, you two are not. You'll have to get to the bottom of why she doesn't want you to touch... and work on that with her...

pigjosh

Re: My Wife's fantasy

2 years ago

I agree with scarbowl,you might be ok with it now but later you might want to participate in it.Thats how i would feel if i was in your postion anyway.

danimarie

Re: My Wife's fantasy

2 years ago

Okay...so I disagree a bit with others here. I think that there are a lot of men out there who would be willing to watch their wife with another woman, even without touching. However, going forward with something so that your wife can have her fantasy is dangerous. If she isn't ready or still has feelings of insecurity then now really isn't the time.

I would suggest you talk more with her about it. Tell her how you feel and listen to how she feels. If it is something she really wants to do (not all of us want to do all of our fantasies) then have her decide the best way to go forward with it (including talking to any friends she might be interested with). A club is a bad idea. The chances of finding a woman at a club are pretty slim and if you aren't interested in doing more then just having some one on one for your wife then it could be hard to deal with everything else there.

However, whatever you do, before you do it....Talk more about it. If she still isn't over any insecurity or jealousy issues then there will be problems.

Good Luck,
Dani