need some help.

in Secret Confessions... Love, Sex, and Cheating » Cheating Confessions • 3 years ago

need help,

About a month ago i cheated on my boyfriend we have been together about 6 monthes, i went to a friends house with one of my best friends. There was only 4 of us there it was 2 girls 2 guys, we were drinking and i got way to drunk i couldnt even stand it, and one of the guys was hitting on me bad, and im not to sure how it all happened but me and the guy slept together :( , once that happened i was all upset called a friend they came and got me, once i got to her house my boyfriend was there, the person who i arrived with told me not to tell him then, to wait until i sobered up, so i told him a few days later, he was very upset that i had done it, but he says that he doesnt care and he wants to be with me no matter what, he still says hes fine, but i just cant forget about it, and how i hurt him that bad, how do i forget about it and move on? cause i love him sooo much and want to be with him, i just cant live with the fact that i did it.

please help! :)

Replies(5)

jjdubbie

Re: need some help.

3 years ago

there are just somethings that can't be forgotten no matter how hard you try.
and because you were drunk you couldn't control what you did anyway
so if this is just once that you did it, i'm pretty sure he'll understand. and YOU get this as experience, not to drink until you get drunk cause you can get taken advantage of even though you might think drinking is fun.

ask him if he is willing to take you back and you know, tell him that you're sorry for sleeping with one of the guys at the party and that you will never do it again.
"you screw up once shame on you, screw up twice, shame on me, screw up the third time... " lets just hope you don't

this of course is just MY opinion
hope this helps
-jjdubbie:)

saishuu

Re: need some help.

3 years ago

I second the above post.

Even if someone does something bad once, doesn't mean that person can't make someone the happiest person in the world for the rest of their life,

rob_danje..

Re: need some help.

3 years ago

As you said, you're sorry you did it.
Therefore, you're half way there. The only thing you've left to do is forgive yourself.

Beagle

Re: need some help.

3 years ago

I agree with Rob. Everyone on this forum has made mistakes. The fact that you regret it indicates you have a conscience.

Punishing yourself with guilt isn't helping anyone. When we've made a mistake all we can do is learn from it and commit ourselves not to make that mistake again.

This isn't the last mistake you will make. I guarantee he has made mistakes too. You've stepped up, admitted your mistake and committed to change. That is everything you can do. If he just can't move past it, then your course is clear. You need to work on forgiving yourself. For me, telling myself "I'll never _____ again." helps. Another strategy is to journal your feelings about the mistake, then have a little private ceremony where you burn it as a symbol to yourself that you've moved past it.

You are a good person at heart; otherwise you wouldn't be feeling guilt. You've beat yourself up enough.

kinggibbon

Re: need some help.

2 years ago

Being drunk is never an excuse for cheating. It just heightens yours true nature. It's a proven fact! My opinion is to speak to your partner about it. To keep it to yourself for too long will just make it worse for when he does find out (if he does) and life has a habit of biting people in the backside.