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The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior patterns. A year from now she'll be telling the next about how she cheated on you because you ignored her. Leave now or be prepared for deal with her cheating for the duration of the relationship.

Pay attention to any changes in attitude and behavior. Those are the signs to look out for.

Originally posted by: Nova
Pay attention to any changes in attitude and behavior. Those are the signs to look out for.

ok...and...sometimes...when we talk about our relationship...she starts crying...and tells me that she dosen't want to leave .. or to cheat on me...she realy needs me...should i belive her?

Originally posted by: Beagle
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior patterns. A year from now she'll be telling the next about how she cheated on you because you ignored her. Leave now or be prepared for deal with her cheating for the duration of the relationship.

but I don't ignore her...and sometimes...she is crying and telling me "i don't want to lose you...i'll never cheat on you"...i know all she's familly...she knows mine...and once she told me...she dosen't want to be that person that sha was in the past...she want to start a new life with me...and want's to spend she's life with me...well? opinions?

Originally posted by: Beagle
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior patterns. A year from now she'll be telling the next about how she cheated on you because you ignored her. Leave now or be prepared for deal with her cheating for the duration of the relationship.

some questions that should i ask her about this theme?
realy need help :(...

Yes, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, but if she has always been honest with you, then you should give her the benefit of the doubt. Clearly you understand her needs differently than she experienced her past boyfriends. But, that being said, be smart, like Nova said... pay attention to her behavior and if she starts being distant or avoidant, then you could have a problem brewing.

The truth is no matter whether we have agreed on a commitment or not, we chose every day whether or not we want to be with someone. A commitment is not cast in stone, even when you are married. You have to attend to the relationship and give each other what you can to keep the relationship alive. If she starts wanting to wander, its because the relationship is lacking in some way. Develop intimacy and it will be something no amount of money or good looks can compete with.