Ask Dan & Jennifer

Hey there.

I'm in a hurry, but I thought I'd go ahead and drop you a quick short answer.

In a way, giving a guy head a little too willingly can be seen as slutty. Not by me, but by the general society. It's one of those stupid stereotypes.

In my opinion, a couple things you can try is to A) make sure he's earning your sexual attentions. If you're just blowing him at any drop of his hat, it's unlikely that he's appreciating it (as much as guys can). But making him earn it might help.
B) Does he go down on you? If more girls had their guys give them oral, and not just give it, the double standard might go down quite a bit. While your trying to improve your technique on him, try getting him to work on pleasing you. Don't let sexual pleasure be one-sided. I'm sure sex isn't something your doing right now, but if your making sure he's orally pleasing you, your bringing down the slut factor in some ways. And it means you get pleased as well as him. And don't just settle for him trying, make sure he finds some tips to actually please you, not just make the motions.
That may seem silly, but I think it's important for guys to give oral as well as getting it, to help them appreciate what they're getting, and improve their overall sex technique.

Or you could just do it less often, but that probably wouldn't help all that much.

Anyway. I'll try to get back on later and throw some tips your way.

Good luck!
~Sin

Originally posted by: Amber_eyes
Okay, this is a sort of a weird question(s). I've been dating this guy for a little over a month, and about a week ago I gave him oral for the first time, and have done it a couple of times since. I really enjoyed doing it, and from what he was saying, I'm pretty sure he does too.

What I''m wondering is, because we haven't been going out long, does this make me seem easy/slutty to him/or other people? Mind you, he is the first guy I've ever done this too, and he knows this. And can I get some tips on giving really great head? Once again I'm still new at this, so I would appreciate some help, and a little reasurence that I'm not being a slut.

No! but besure he is the person you want a stable relationship with. Some men like to use the ladies as one night stands. Have a chat with him about what had happen see how he feels about it. If he refuses to look you in the eye and gives you a lame answer then he is not the man for you then he just used you. But if he says no it is ok and i love you and i want to be with you then see how things go for a while with or with out the oral sex. But if you want to give it to him and enjoy it then do what you have to do to make your self happy. Pratice makes perfect. What makes you happy make sure he is with along with your happiness as well...................:cool::cool::cool:

Well the questions have to be, why are you giving him oral? Does he respect you? Would you think differently about giving him oral if you knew the relationship was going to end next week?

Like the other person who posted said . I agree with him about what he exsplained to you. You need to be sure you are doing the right thing > if it feels pressuring to the point that is all he wants then maybe it is not the right relationship for you. No one in a relationship should be pressured into something they feel unsure of.


That to you is something you are unsure of then tell them man in your life this. Tell him Babe i don't think i am ready yet to give you a blow job or in your way oral sex. Tell him that you are not ready yet there is other ways of pleasing a man like dry humping , erotic massage, a hand job works to things of that nature , Use lube and and use it on his penis for a hand job you don't need to blow him to respect you. You are a woman that is good enough and if he doesn't respect you then he is not the man for you. As a woman we make the rules of what goes and doesn't we are the ones that let things happen as far as we want it to go.. If it makes you feel degraded as a person then find another way to please him.

ice works to it is cold and wet and instead of shriverling it up use a little bit at a time not all at once. There is pleanty of way to please him with out making you feel scared of degraded or feel like what if because i am new at this. There is books on this subject at the adult book store and videos on how to that you can buy at adult book stores or online.

Never feel that if you do this will he respect you. As a woman you need to be strong and stand your grown on what you feel is the right thing to do. A man is there to be pleased a woman is there to be pleased in three different ways sensually and phsyically and emotionally. See us women get more of the pleasure because we hold the secert key to paradise.

I hope you find this information helpful..
stay safe and be happy .............:cool::cool::cool: