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Many things may be going on.
First, make sure you're clean and that you smell good. VERY important. Tell her to shower together and try there. If she is able to, then problem fixed.
Second, she might not like the flavor. Flavored gels are just not the same. You can try changing your eating habits (the cum from veggies tastes better than the cum of meat-eaters) or just eat pineapple or drink pineapple juice a day before (it makes cum a little more sweet in taste).
Third, maybe you're too big? Big penises carry the issue of being hard to be blow-jobbed.
Fourth, is really oral sex too important? If she just can't do it, find something else you could do together. Sex is one of the most diverse and most done activities, just after eating and sleeping. :p

-Jean
who would have no issues giving a blow-job.

Oral sex should come standard in a relationship. No question. I'm assuming here, though, that you perform cunnilingus on her. This works both ways.

Some women cannot suppress the gag reflex. Shallower penetration (using their hand AND their mouth) can take care of that.

Can she say precisely what is wrong? Then you can find a way to help solve that problem. There are educational videos available for this - "how to" tapes.

Oral sex should come standard in a relationship.

I don't agree.
Not any form of sex should be a given on a relationship. Oral sex is the practice that most people go for since it is easier to do, however, there are some people that plain dislike it and you won't MAKE your partner like oral if (s)he doesn't, right?

Originally posted by: jeanintro*quitex
I don't agree.
Not any form of sex should be a given on a relationship. Oral sex is the practice that most people go for since it is easier to do, however, there are some people that plain dislike it and you won't MAKE your partner like oral if (s)he doesn't, right?

Of course it is wrong to MAKE someone perform against their will. We aren't in the Victorian age any longer. Oral is part of the package now. I wouldn't say that for anal. But oral definitely is. Just as conversation is. What if I only spoke to my wife when I "felt like it." What if I didn't often "feel like it." Should I HAVE to? Yes, that is part of the package as well.

If oral isn't, then why would intercourse be part of it? Would you feel the same about intercourse? If she doesn't want to then I wouldn't MAKE her. But I would have grounds to be unhappy and even to get divorced.

We all do things to please one another even if we aren't particularly fond of them. Maybe she doesn't particularly like oral (though I would have to wonder why) and maybe I don't like having so many conversations. But they come with being in a relationship.

The difference between oral and anal and penetration and so on is that.... they're actually different!
What I mean is that there are people that really dislike stuff. For example, if I ever *coughs* ever engage in a long-term relationship, I'd personally like to be top, however if he doesn't want to be bottom, we could work things out.

However, there are really stubborn people that are willing to end a relationship if their partner won't do what they want to. If my partner dislikes oral, then I'd move on to something that suits both of us. It is a mistake to think that even "sex" itself is part of the package, when it is not. Two different things: emotional attraction and physical attraction. If both of the people in the relationship are in it for emotional support, then sex isn't part of the package. Hell, only if one of them.

So I really think that sex is a plus on any pre-marriage relationship. We talk about something totally different in a marriage.

Originally posted by: jeanintro*quitex

However, there are really stubborn people that are willing to end a relationship if their partner won't do what they want to. If my partner dislikes oral, then I'd move on to something that suits both of us. It is a mistake to think that even "sex" itself is part of the package, when it is not. Two different things: emotional attraction and physical attraction. If both of the people in the relationship are in it for emotional support, then sex isn't part of the package. Hell, only if one of them.

So I really think that sex is a plus on any pre-marriage relationship. We talk about something totally different in a marriage.

Said differently, there are really stubborn people who would rather end a relationship than perform oral sex. That's pretty sad and reflects an inflexibility that must affect many other parts of the relationship.

Perhaps sex is a "plus" in a pre-marriage relationship though I think few would agree.

The something "totally different" in a marriage suggests that you do believe that sex is an essential part of a marriage relationship and "part of the package." I would simply add that this sex includes oral sex. If my partner couldn't bring herself to perform this (especially since I perform this for her) then it would be a deal breaker. I suspect she would feel the same if I wouldn't speak to her - which is not stated anywhere in the marriage contract, either, but is assumed to be "part of the package."

Mark, in answer to your question just give up. She is never going to give you a proper blowjob. If she were it would have happened by now.

All of this talk of smell and taste is probably something that women invented as a reply to the selfish men out there who won't go down on them because of the way women smell and taste. People who have good hygiene and bathe daily do not smell bad. Nowadays that is not even an arguable point because it has been documented that a great majority of men not only are willing to perform cunnilingus, but actually enjoy it; many taking great pride in their skills. The taste issue is ridiculous to even mention because if she is not blowing you she has no idea what your semen tastes like and if she would blow you she just has to take your ejaculation on the back part of her tongue where she would not perceive it anyway.

My personal experience, not a scientifically conducted study, shows that about 80% of women will give head. Of the 80% who give head 25% of those will give a complete blowjob. In other words 20% of all women will give a BJ. That leaves another 20% of all women who will not perform fellatio at all even if it is only foreplay with no expectation of an orally provoked orgasm.

No one really knows why most women won't give BJs. Even women don't know why. It's just something that we men have to live with.
At least she doesn't hate you, I hope.