Ask Dan & Jennifer

OK, I want to know if this is a new thing or if it has always been like this... Also does it hurt when you have intercourse? If it does hurt you during intercourse you may want to see a urologist as there may be a medical condition.
If sex is pleasurable for you and it is only when your wife performs oral sex then it's more than likely her technique. Honestly most women don't really know how to perform fellatio when they're new at it. It could be that she's not careful with her teeth, or that she's being too rough and maybe bending or folding the shaft which could cause discomfort.
There's also a possibility that you have an infection or STD... in which case oral sex would probably not be the only uncomfortable act for you. If you can urinate, masturbate, and penetrate (the 3 "ate's" of sex) without any pain or discomfort the issue probably lies within your wife's performance, however, if any of those other things are uncomfortable, talk to your doctor. And don't be embarassed, medical people see people's most intimate parts day in and day out. It's not something they laugh about, make fun of people for, or judge someone about... it's simply another day at the office.

I agree with K.

If it hurts at other times, see your doctor immediately! There's probably a quick fix for your problem.

If it's only during oral sex, maybe try asking her to start very gently and then walk her through what does and doesn't feel good. She just may not know what she's doing wrong...

Originally posted by: Lan
when i let my wife give me oral sex, it seems to hurt more than feel good...
is there something wrong with me?:confused:

NO!
Politely tell the wife that oral sex is not scrapping the teeth over the skin of the penis. Tell her for example it is like sucking on a lolly pop or sucking on a pop cicle.

You don't use your teeth for that. it also helps to by going to a book store and getting a book on oral sex . Or get a video on it. Oral sex should be fun and enjoyable not painful and unpleasent. When i first learned i was also scrapping my teeth over the skin of the penis it was when a ex lover of mine told me that suck it like a lolly that i got the idea then maybe i was doing it all wrong.


Have some examples like practice on a banana un peeled perferrably.
try a soft cone ice cream and practice on that or use a pop cicle or a un cooked hot dog something that will help her learn it is not ok to scrap with the teeth and use the throat and the tongue muscles.

Wish ya the best of luck on the oral sex and i hope that i gave you the best advice as possible.

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