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I think the best action is to sit down and talk to him. Make sure he feels that he's in a safe environment so that you two can openly talk about what's going on.

I'd suggest you do some research on this. My understanding is that sex is safe until shortly before delivery. Unless you are in pain there is no reason to stop having intercourse.

Also, let him masturbate. There's nothing wrong with that. There will be a short period after delivery that you can't have sex, too.

Like stated above if you sit down and talk with him on how you miss your past love life I think he will come around.

Originally posted by: scarbowl
I'd suggest you do some research on this. My understanding is that sex is safe until shortly before delivery. Unless you are in pain there is no reason to stop having intercourse.

Also, let him masturbate. There's nothing wrong with that. There will be a short period after delivery that you can't have sex, too.

i know all this dr said no intercourse and i know at least 6 weeks after delivery if everything goes as planed. and i didn't say anything was wrong with masturbation, i do let him do it (on his own, i normally go find some thing else to do) . i guess i wasn't really clear before the pregnancy we were really open. about all of it and we could even masturbated with or in front of one another but i think because i cant have any intercourse, he dosen't want me to see because i cant do it. but we have done rub downs and things of that nature. and it might sound werid but i think he is afraid of hurting my feelings or some thing because i am the most sexual out of us, or he feels that he did this. i'm not really sure and i know that talking to him would be best but he has made it clear that is a subject (not sex entirely just that topic) he is not willing to talk about so i guess i was looking on how to show him it dosen't bother me and i don't hold that aginst him. when he dose not want to go down that road. i don't know i'm lost because i have tried all i know to try.

I think your going to have to make the first move. I don't think he will because to me he seems too timid.

If he wont talk about it, and you cant get any sex from him. Next time your doing nothing or in a sexuall mood just go for him. I think he might come out of it. You don't just have to go after him, you could just say, wanna have sex? I'm really horny or something like that.

This should be the last thing to do if he wont talk to you.

If he wont talk about the issue I would write him a note maybe.