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To make you last a bit longer....
There is the practice makes perfect method which would mean the next time you have some free time just keep going at it one after the other, most guys I know will swear by this method it can be really irritating at first but when it comes right down to it the results are what your after!
There is the physical distraction by music method, which means you find a cd you really like listening to and meditate into the the beat of the music more than you do the task at hand ( slower music usually works better at first and as you get better at it you can usually pick faster music if your partner digs the more aggressive stuff, or start mixing your own discs and make them a little faster per song)
There is the Mental distraction by off the wall thoughts Method, which means whenever you feel like your close to climax you pop a completely off the wall non-sexual image into your head for a split second to push the point of climax back a little while longer and usually the stranger the image the better (example: two cartoon characters playing tennis... I got my friend hooked on that one in high-school and it really helped him out), but the picture doesn't really matter as long as it's a non-sexually stimulating thought!
There is always my personal favorite method, which is the taunt, tease, and please her to exhaustion method lol, which means learn to use your hands and mouth to please her first, my personal rule of thumb is I don't slide into a girl unless I've already got them off three to five times before I go for my own finish ( I don't know of one single girl thats ever complained about being over-satisfied sexually ) so take some time and learn her hot spots through a little foreplay, the rewards are well worth it! Believe me when I say a little self-sacrifice goes a long way, I learned along time ago its nice to get yours... but it's way better to give than to receive especially if you want her coming back again and again for more, and if you make it about her wants and needs it usually comes back ten fold!
The last thing I'll say is you need to spend a little time figuring out what kind of lover you are, some people are emotional lovers, some are physical lovers, and some are mental lovers, find your niche it's time well spent!
Hope that helps you out some,
LostInEternity

Originally posted by: Troy in Toronto
Hey, i get too excited before having sex or even masturbating and i ejaculate too fast. I have tried many methods to relax myself before sex but i get too excited in advance and i ejaculate too quick, sometimes not even 30 secconds. I have tried stop and start method but still didnt work. Can you please advice. thank you

Lost is right.not that you don't want to give your full attention to your lady,some distraction can help.although my hb doesn't have this problem he still practices his control methods.but as lost told you give her orgasms first.my hb would never penetrate me until he gave me some great orgasms [oral and fingers].even if he would have cum in 30 seconds after he penetrated me it would have made no difference.i would have given my best to get his erection back[oral].have your gf give you oral and let her sit on you,so she can control the action as she likes.when you feel or she should that you are about to ejaculate have her stop and squeeze your penis with her fingers beneath the head until you relax and keep doing this.you will soon learn control.she should be glad to help espically with masturbating[handjobs].also you can learn to excersize your pc muscles,same as woman who wants to keep herself tight.

Ok. As you are telling that there is problem in your relationship due to premature ejaculation, then it can be solved. Premature Ejaculation is a type of sexual dysfunction. Pills can help for sexual improvement. Many options are available now to improve your health. You can try any one.

I dealt with PE for a lot of my life....I've finally gotten a grip on it.

Some things to help:

Practice on your own, and sort of meditate...pay attention to all of the thoughts going on in your head, and take control of them...try and last for about 20 minutes to half an hour on your own...this will help bring back some confidence in your lasting power, and show you its all in your mind.

Make her orgasm first, orally or with your hands...this will take the pressure off of your performance and allow you to have fun and practice.

If you are doing PC squeezes aka kegels to last longer, make sure you are doing them right...check this out:

Kegels can cause Premature Ejaculation

Good luck man...it can be overcome

Troy: You've gotten some great advice here. Please try the things that have been suggested here. Over the course of a few months, most men are able to get them under better control. Basically, it involves mental control and lots of foreplay. Entering the woman very slowly also helps delay ejaculation.

If you try these things conscientiously, and the problem continues, then medical treatment is in order. The medications used for this are generally a class of antidepressants. They delay ejaculation but can also cause a drop in sexual drive, which can cause relationship problems in itself. Definitely exhaust the suggestions you have received here before going the medical route. The squeeze technique explained by Sub is very effective. If you need more details, just Google squeeze technique.

by Mantak Chia. You'll learn to control your orgasm muscles (PC) and circulate energy around your body.