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in Sex and Intimacy » Sex Toys • 2 years ago

Hello,

I am giving some serious thought to purchasing a "Real Doll" and I am wondering what straight women think about them. Two questions:

A) If you were dating a guy and you found out he had a Real Doll, how would you feel? Would you stop dating him because of it?

B) If you were getting seriously involved with a guy and starting to have feelings for him and found out he had a Real Doll, how would you feel? Would it cause you to end the relationship?

A little background info. I am in my 40's and have dated many women and had 3 long term exclusive relationships in my life. Two of them living together for 5 years each. The last two of those relationships were really not very good for me and have left me with the realization that when it comes to choosing a life mate, I tend to do a very poor job of it.

They have left me feeling like I really have no desire to try again and would be much happier just being alone, to be free to do as I please. I still have physical needs as a man however, which is why I am giving serious thought to the doll.

Everything about this solution seems perfect for me except the one thing that kind of nags in the back of my mind is what if by some fluke reason I just happened to meet someone really great and I have a rubber doll at home? I think the likelihood of this happening is slim to none because, as I said, I do not feel open to such an option any longer but there is always that slim chance that it could still happen.

So what do you think? Dealbreaker? Thank you in advance for your replies.

Replies(8)

scarbowl

Re: Question for women

2 years ago

I'm not a woman so I'm not the target group for your question. However, I will say that it is common for women to have a vibrator or dildo and your "real doll" isn't much different in concept. You might not want to share the information early in a relationship and you might not "need" the doll if you are in one.

frying_pan

Re: Question for women

2 years ago

Thanks for your reply. No, I wouldn't need the doll if I was in a relationship, which brings up another problem with my idea. If I ever needed to get rid of the doll I don't think there would be a way to do it. I believe I'd be pretty much stuck with it.

I get the feeling if someone I was dating knew I had life size silicone replica of a woman they would probably be much more freaked out than I would about their vibrator (which I wouldn't really care about at all). Maybe there are some women out there who are open minded about it, though. Hence my question.

I don't plan on being in another relationship, though. I know that sounds weird but the last one was really just a bit brutal. I've had time to heal from it and now that I have some distance from it, I honestly don't feel like I want to get involved with anyone again. That's not the only reason, though. I also have health problems (not sex related) which have recently taken a turn for the worse and I don't see them getting better so I don't think it would be fair for me to get into a relationship at this time.

I still have a sex drive, though. While perusing this board, I read about someone mentioning something called a "fleshlight". I think this may be the solution I'm looking for. I'm going to give it a try. It's only $70, as opposed to $6000 for the doll and doesn't pose any of the problems that the doll would. Still, if any women would like to reply to my original question, I'd be interested to hear what any of you think about it.

kettlekor..

are there other options?

2 years ago

I don't quite understand why you want to buy a "real doll" instead of just the vagina. It seems like it would be easier to throw that away and it wouldn't scare women as much.
But to answer your question... as a woman myself, I would first feel scared, then think it's weird and not understand why you would want to use it (sorry if this sounds mean or offensive)... honestly, that's what would go through my mind. I'm not saying I'm right or anything, it's just how I would react at first.
It would definitely help if you explained why you have it, then show it to me, and do that fairly early on in the relationship. And have an open conversation about it. I would want to ask you a lot of questions (some of them might be stupid, haha). I'll admit that it's a good way to test out a relationship early on :)

I am curious... why do you want buy a "real doll"?

Xero

Re: Question for women

2 years ago

As kettlekorn stated you could get a rubber/silicon vagina. I don't know how much they cost but I highly doubt its 6k.

I also think a woman would be pretty freaked out about the doll. Depends on who you would get with and how they feel about sex.

frying_pan

Re: Question for women

2 years ago

Originally posted by: kettlekorn
I don't quite understand why you want to buy a "real doll" instead of just the vagina. It seems like it would be easier to throw that away and it wouldn't scare women as much.
But to answer your question... as a woman myself, I would first feel scared, then think it's weird and not understand why you would want to use it (sorry if this sounds mean or offensive)... honestly, that's what would go through my mind. I'm not saying I'm right or anything, it's just how I would react at first.
It would definitely help if you explained why you have it, then show it to me, and do that fairly early on in the relationship. And have an open conversation about it. I would want to ask you a lot of questions (some of them might be stupid, haha). I'll admit that it's a good way to test out a relationship early on :)

I am curious... why do you want buy a "real doll"?

As I stated above, I discovered the "fleshlight" and bought one. It fits the bill perfectly, exactly what I was looking for. I just didn't know about it.

To answer your question, I wanted the doll merely for sexual purposes. It's a guy thing. ;)

danandjen..

Have you considered simple male masturbator sex toys?

2 years ago

We just did a video on "homemade sex toys" -

Check it out here - particularly the section on male masturbators (roughly halfway though?).

Basically for $20 you can get something that may do the same thing, it's at least worth trying.

For example check out the "Super Head Honcho" from Adam & Eve. It's a great example of simple but functional.

BTW, check this out: Adam & Eve provided the toys for the video, and they're offering a really great deal to Dan and Jennifer viewers: 50% off just about any item, free shipping, and some free stuff - not sure how long it's good for, but something worth taking advantage of. Just use offer code "DanJenn" after you place your item in basket.

Have fun!

danandjen..

People need intimate human contact

2 years ago

As to your deeper question... don't plan on abstaining from relationships... we humans are pack animals, we need that special, comforting, intimate human contact.

Not sure I'd encourage the doll thing - call it masturbation and fantasy and whatever. It's probably fine, but the idea of trying to replace a real person with silicone is just going to be a disappointment.

In the end you'll still want a real person to be there for you. It's often said that men don't need the same emotional contact women do - and that frankly isn't true. We're all human beings with our own unique special personal emotional needs.

We love the book "Men are From Mars / Women are From Venus" - but the problem with it is that many people take the man and woman definition in it literally. In reality many women exhibit the "Mars" traits and many men exhibit the "Venus" traits - but the book does help us identify with people who are different from ourselves.

Anyway... short version is try some basic masturbation toys, that's fine - but seek to find the right person for you, she's out there. in fact there are probably many right persons for you... just believe. I always do.

-- Dan

frying_pan

Re: Question for women

2 years ago

Um, yeah, thanks for the replies all, I really do appreciate it but as I said, I found something that works very well for the purpose I've intended.

I had a lot of trepedation about the doll because it's big, expensive, cumbersome, etc. Once I took the time to investigate a little further into what's available, I found there were many suitable alternatives to what I was after. But a substitue for a woman is not what I had in mind when considering the doll. Just an outlet for my libido is all.

As far as finding a mate goes, I really do feel as though I prefer to be alone at this time and I'm happy with that decision. Maybe in the future that will change, maybe not, but as for now I'm perfectly content to be flying solo. Love can be tough sometimes and I honestly just need a break. Until when? I don't know, but it's not a concern at this time. Thanks again to all for taking the time to reply.

EDIT: Oh, and I do think I'll take you up on your suggestion about that book. I think it might provide some useful insight. Thanks!