Ask Dan & Jennifer

I know how you feel I had the same problem as you. You first need to build some self confidence. I can only think of two ways currently, one would be talking into a mirror, the other would be to lift weights. The mirror sounds stupid but it worked for me a bit.
I'm not much of help in this area because I'm still working on that problem a bit.

Don't go thinking no girl will like you back because that is not true. Everyone wants some one else to care. Even if they say no just try for some one else.

If you could give more concerns that you have with my ideas her please reply with anything on your mind and ill try to help you the best I can seeing no one else has posted after 175 views.

i have the same problem i now have 2 girls which are my best friends they have given me the confidence with out knowing it. i flirted with them but i am not going to start a relationship with them cus i no it will destroy our friendship

it sounds like u need 1 or 2 best female friends who u can flirt with them but don't tell them what u are doing so you can practice. to get ur confidence by knowing the u always have friends

don't know if this helps or not but it worked 4 me

Again I can relate to this situation as well. To cut a long story short I never really tried to make friends in High School because they just didn't seem like the people I liked hanging out with. I had friends in classes, but that was about it.

Fast forward to Uni, and history is repeating itself. I only have guy friends and 1 girl I know who talks to me occaisonaly. There's another attractive girl as well but I haven't spoken to her.

Back to your problems though. You should probably try talking to as many different kinds of people as possible as a begginers step. It doesn't have to be anything philosophical, just mention how great the weather is/isn't to someone else and see if the conversation goes somewhere. If it doesn't - no problem, the more you practice talking the better you'll get like most other things in life.

Its easier said than done I know, but joining clubs or gyms near your home or school can help a lot as well. It'll probably help you to feel your doing something proactive, like you belong to something, and you never know - you'll probably meet people there that are like-minded and want to talk to them as well.

I understand everything you are saying I was the same way in school! Most girls find the quiet mysterious type attractive, so you may be intimidating. If you don't want to say anything to the girl you like make eye contact with her and see how she reacts. Watch body language and how she reacts when you look at her. And don't be discouraged if she looks away that could be a good sign! If she feels the same way you do she is just as afraid of being rejected by you! And don't be so hard on yourself!

I'm a girl as well. The mysterious ones are the most attractive! But enough about romantic relationships, you said you didn't have any friends outside of school, right? I can tell you from experience that not having social skills in making and keeping friends can be damaging to romantic relationships. Going out and meeting different people and becoming socially outgoing is a shoe in to any relationship you want to start. The first thing the girl will do is ask her friends about you and if they have nothing to tell her then...
As far as rejections go, THEY WILL HAPPEN! It happens to everyone. But if everyone just stops trying and feels that it is the end of the world, on one would be dating now. It's corny but true. Just get back on the horse and try again. It is not the end of the world or your existence. If the girl you like now does say no, there are more fish out there. She will not be the only girl you will ever like. Even if you don't see then now, there are people around you who love you and would miss you.

lunaramithist: Great post. Thank you. I think guys have gotten to the point they're afraid to talk to girls because they might get rejected. You're 100% right; they WILL get rejected. If you ride horses, you will get thrown, hard. You just have to get up, find your hat, dust off your jeans, and look forward to the next time.

Guys: Please read her post very carefully. She is 100% right. If you don't try, you'll never get anywhere. If you let the possibility of rejection stop you, you'll never try. That possibility will always be there.

You can always find an excuse not to try.

:pYou should relax, maybe go to the doctor for antidepressents. Also, observe yourself; are you being yourself?- have you accidently offended her? Make a move, and if she rejects you, I'm sorry for making the suggestion, but otherwise move forward, and maybe she'll have feelings for you.--Self judgement is sometimes not the right thing to go by.