She cheated on her bf with me...

in Love and Relationships » Cheating, Infidelity, and Affairs • 1 year ago

Ive been seeing this girl & recently found out from her close girlfriend that she has a boyfriend that she has been with for awhile, she never told me she had a bf & acted like she was single & very interested in me & now that I have found out from her friend I'm sure her friend has told her that I now know...Its been a week since I last spoke to her Im trying to get her to come out with me so we can talk about it in person but she isnt answering my calls or msgs & dont get me wrong its only about 3 calls in a week and 2 msgs with no answer?? Im confused I really want to talk to her in person so I know what is happening, but I get the feeling she doesnt want to confront me about it, should I give her more time? msg her & tell her Its best we dont see each other anymore?? any suggestions?? & to everyone who is reading this Im not going to do anything while she has a bf & now that I know. & I am still interested in her but nothing can be done at the moment since we havent spoken & while she has a bf. Why do u think she cheated on her bf?? If anyone can answer these questions or suggest anything Id be grateful :)

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Xero

Re: She cheated on her bf with me...

1 year ago

Forget about her.

Why would you want someone who cheats. Obviously if shes cheating on this guy shes able to cheat on you too if you get into a relationship.

I would stop contacting her now and forever. I personally would move onto the next girl and probably help her boyfriend out.

I'm not sure if your willing to do this nor do you know the person because you didn't give me enough information. I would contact the boyfriend by a message or something and tell him that his girlfriend has been up to when he wasn't around. Seeing him in person could be confrontational, and it's up to you personally if you wish to do this. But if anything leave him a message of what's gone on and say your sorry, you didn't know, and you don't want anything with her now.

That's totally up to you, you didn't really do anything wrong.

the_unkno..

Re: She cheated on her bf with me...

1 year ago

i agree^
i wouldnt want to get involved with anyone who cheats or has cheated, because like it says above, it is most likely to repeat itself.

and at the same time, i would want someone to tell me if my girlfriend was cheating on me

jackmimi2

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1 year ago

I can't agree with you more.

jandjnyco..

Re: She cheated on her bf with me...

1 year ago

Firstly, take a step back. Her close friend told you that she allegedly has a boyfriend. Until you speak directly to the girl you are seeing then you do not know (based upon the information you provided) whether she indeed has a boyfriend or nor or if in fact there is another guy what their status actually is. Relationships are normally not black and white and what involvement she has with another guy can be complex. In addition, assuming she is seeing another guy, is it a monogomous relationship? If not then she is free to be with who she wants. Did you ever ask her directly if she is with someone? Did you ever discuss the two of you being monogomous? Information is important and any advice given based upon the information you originally provided should be discarded simply because the information provided was not nearly enough to come to a conclusion one way or another wether you should pursue this girl or not. As for the frequency of contacting her, don't suffocate her. Give her some space otherwise you will turn her off.

kingofsan..

Re: She cheated on her bf with me...

1 year ago

You should definitely talk to her to find out whether or not she really had a boyfriend before she started seeing you. If she did, then you should probably end your relationship with her, because if she cheated on him she will probably cheat on you.