she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 3 years ago

okay so my girlfriend constantly complains about her weight...

she only weighs 138 but she wants to weigh 125. and i know that once she gets there shes not gonna stop...

and on top of that i know that she is too short and stocky to be that skinny. her rib cage is too big and her hip bones are too thick and i know if she gets any skinnier theyre going to poke out even more than they already do.

and im also afraid that if she gets to be that skinny then i wont be physically attracted to her anymore because ive always had a thing for girls with a little meat on their bones and i can barely look at girls with their bones showing under their skin without being disgusted.

can someone offer any advice how i can explain this to her without her getting upset? ive tried telling her that i think she is gorgeous and beautiful and i love her just the way she is... but she doesnt listen to me... she gained 2 pounds because she got her period and she said she felt like a hefer...

someone... anyone... please help me... :(

Replies(7)

leash_dan..

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

sounds like you have a problem going on so you have talked to her about your conserns? maybe you should talk to her parents about your worries about her health and what they need to do for her:p

tjfromchy..

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

yes believe me ive tried talking to her about it. and she always finds a way to turn it around on me. once she said that i just wanted her to be fat so no other guys will be checking her out. and there is no talking to her parents cause they dont get it either... thanks tho

keven_in_..

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

well maybe you can show her how you feel rather than just telling her.try to reach out to her and tell her what she means to you now and that you don't want her to change that she's great just the way she is

exavion

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

Heh, before you have this talk with her, just be cautious. Girls are so sensitive about their weight, it really isn't logical, so seriously... tread with caution.

Now with that said, I'll voice my opinion, but first I'd like to know, how tall is she? 135 lb is a perfectly respectable weight for a women, even a short one. Now, that's my opinion, but that's not what drives her to lose weight, is it?

No, the reason she wants to lose weight is either because she feels like others aren't treating her correctly because of it, which I doubt but is possible, or she doesn't feel attractive enough for you.

The first thing you should do is just ask her why she cares so much about losing weight when you find her extremely attractive already. Assuring her that you love her like she is and really don't want her to lose any weight is a solid starting point. :)

tjfromchy..

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

ive tried telling her how much she means to me and that i really do love her the way she is. i think shes gorgeous and sexy and she doesnt even look overweight or anything.

to answer your question she is 5'1".

ive even tried telling her that really skinny girls arent attractive to me. like at all.

im totally lost on this. she doesnt get made fun of for being overweight because shes not. she doesnt have a gut or anything. and she should know that shes hot because guys hit on her at school...

i dont know what to do...

exavion

Re: she wants to be skinnier... but shes too tiny...

3 years ago

Well that doesn't really make much sense, I'm out of ideas as to why she feels she needs to lose weight.

You should come out and be very direct and just ask her why exactly she wants to. If you can figure out why she wants to, the rest is easy. :p

tjfromchy..