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Originally posted by: mr new jersey
Even though we 'experimented' with our friends, she's nervous about meeting new people. I told her that going to swing clubs does'nt mean we have to sleep with every couple we see. I want her to understand that we can take as long as she needs to get comfortable again, but all she talks about are our friends.I dont have a problem with them, I would just like to try new things and find new friends.Is that wrong?

Not Wrong,but what's the rush?We met a couple 3yrs. ago and just this weekend did we finally get together.My master makes sure there is more than just sex.So not only can we enjoy sex but share interests and enjoy companionship.We want friends we can trust and maybe your wife likes the security
you have with your friends.I myself[woman] would rather meet people at a more,say romantic setting.Also is she up for these new things you want to try?I was always bi-curious,but my [now master] wasn't sure if i would get jealious if he was with another woman.He loves knowing that i get better orgasms from a woman and love seeing him with another woman.Hope this helps.Luv

There's absolutely nothing wrong with making new friends! We actually know many people who are 'swingers' and never have sex with anyone other than their partner.

We personally have many swinging friends that are just that - friends.

As a woman, I understand the importance of being friends first. It's really important to establish an emotional connection with people and from my perspective, you don't really get to know someone until you've hung out with them several times. Initial infatuations come and go - in the end that really hot guy or girl can turn out to be really lame and that questionable couple can turn out to be your best friends.

Swinger clubs can be intimidating... And people tend to get a little more wild...

Maybe she would be more comfortable with a one on one (or two on two) setting for dinner or a glass of wine. Our favorite way to meet new friends is over a glass of wine during the 'happy hour'. Most people have kids and jobs and this just fits better into everyone's schedule. You don't have to reserve your very small amount of free weekend time until you get to know them and decide if you really want to...

As far as the best place to meet new friends, we promote AFF (AdultFriendFinder.com) on our website and it's a great website to look around and meet lots of people. If you create an account there, we'd appreciate it if you use one of the links on our site. Thanks how we make our living.;)

We have however made more in person connections through a website called SDC.com - most of the people on this site are serious about meeting people. There are a lot of 'lookers' on AFF. We have an account on both sites.

And be very clear with her that you are just out to make new friends - no tricks, no demands, just friends. I think if you find the right group of friends, she'll be more likely to 'ease' into it... She may be afraid that you're trying to manipulate her...