Ask Dan & Jennifer

Judy: I"m not a swinger, but since no one else has taken a stab at it, I will.

When I learned whitewater, I went with friends who looked after me. They told me what areas to avoid and corrected my strategy for navigating a river safely. I also knew that they were there to help if I got into trouble. I can see a big benefit for having a trusted and experienced friend any time you engage in a high-risk activity for the first time.

I've been watching your posts with a great deal of interest. You ask challenging questions. Have you and your husband/partner actually entered swinging yet?

I am a curious one about the lifestyle and would find it beneficial speaking to experienced couples provided we were compatible with our values about the lifestyle. I have been curious about this lifestyle for sometime now, being single though I believe that it is for couples with a strong foundation so both parties feel secure in the relationship. Answer to your question, if the curiosity is there why not present it. I myself would find it beneficial speaking with experienced people.

swinging is not for everyone,and new couples will not be sure if they can handle the situation or not,i would wait until the relationship is fully established and secure,the trust with each person has to be unwavering,i am bi-curious and my husband is just curious,i want him to be bi-sexual at least once:) however,we have been married for 7 years,together for 10,and i still am not sure about swinging yet,we both get very jealous of each other even talking to the opposite sex,but i think it is a if i didnt know jealous thing,i think we would be ok if we discussed it ahead of time,but then again,you never know how you will truely feel until the thing happens,and really i am not willing to risk my marriage and best friend friendship on a maybe.it would be erotic,that i know,i think we will be ready in the future,but not yet,and when we do do it,i think satrting very slowly,like having a date first,then maybe just kissing,and if that all goes ok,then proceed to oral,and so on,each time going further,but give time between each one to allow for feelings to develop.so i would not urge anyone to do it,i would give them the hint,let them decide on their own,my first marriage i did threesomes,and it did end up in divorce,but we had existing problems,and it wasnt that we broke up to keep doing it,or to go to the other person,but the threesome made it all worse.that is why i am hesitant now.so please,do not urge anyone,lightly suggest and give them info on where to go online.like dan and jennifer,to get more knowledge about this topic,before they do it.