Ask Dan & Jennifer

Hi Casey,

Five or six in a few years? Sweetie, healing quickly is NOT what you need to do! What you need to do is take time. Time to heal, time to get to know and fall in love with you.

You will not find the relationship you want or the love you deserve by relationship hopping. Going from relationship to relationship leads me to think you are afraid to be alone. If that's the case, you'll never find what you're looking for.

You have to be happy alone before you can ever hope to be happy with someone. It sounds a little cliche I know, but it really is so true. How can you expect someone else to want to be alone with you if you don't want to be alone with you?

Look, I'm that girl who did just what you are doing. For years, I went from one relationship to another and never took the time to figure out why. Finally, I realized that I was both terrified of being alone and looking for validation from the men I was dating. I didn't take the time to heal or evaluate the kind of men I was attracting and why. Ugh...not pretty!

You have to do that. And you have to be happy with your life as it is. Fill it up with things and people you enjoy. Find happiness within yourself. Heal. Take the time. Don't rush. It'll be the best thing you ever did for yourself!

Thanx soo much it seems like im the bad person in the relationship. so i beat my self up for some reason. Thanks again

You're welcome Casey. I'm happy to try to help.

Most likely you're feeling like you are the bad person for one of two reasons...or maybe both.

First, maybe you feel deep down like you are the bad person. If so, you really need to work on falling in love with yourself. Find some positive affirmations and repeat them to yourself often. When you look in the mirror, see the beauty and say, "I love you" to yourself. It sounds, and will feel, silly but do it and often. Make a list of the wonderful things about you and be grateful for them.

Second, maybe the men you are attracting are making you feel like the bad person so they don't. But remember it takes two! You certainly didn't do it all by yourself. No one does. The remedy is the really the same. You have to know that you are a good person, a good catch, worthy of a healthy relationship, etc.

Private message me if you need to!