Ask Dan & Jennifer

Well the only thing I can think of is that basically it "means" that when you watch porn, apparently only women masterbating or lesbians turn you on.:p

Is it normal? What do you mean by "normal" in what context? I don't think there is any research out there to support what is normal in taste in porn.

Here is a better question: "does it matter?" If you enjoy it go with it. Whats the reason you are worried about it being "normal"? Did someone say something to you? Are you unsure of your own sexuality?

You say you never fantasized about being with another woman BUT you are watching it & getting aroused and porn is fantasy. Maybe you are bi-curious? That could be a possibility and you don't want to admit it for whatever reasons.

Dunno, I'm not in your head.:o The reason you are worried about whether this is normal or not would probably shed more light on the subject because really all you wrote was "why do I only like lesbian porn?"

Originally posted by: Another Jennifer
Hi! I have a question. I'm a straight, married 30yo female. I find that when I watch porn, the only kind that turn me on are women masterbating, or lesbians. I don't know what this means. I have never fantasized about being with a woman and don't desire women sexually. Is this normal?

I agree with Tankman in that it doesn't really matter... Dan and Jennifer have said, and I agree, forget about homosexual or heterosexual, we're all just sexual. Personally I believe that most of us are bisexual but that we're taught to be gay or straight growing up. I know you haven't fantasized about being with a woman and don't desire women sexually, but the question is, if you did would it change how you live your life now? If seeing women being openly and freely sexual in the way some erotic film portrays arrouses you, then what is that telling you about how you feel about your life now? What is it then that is exciting you? Are you really attracted to the women and afraid to admit this to yourself, or is it that these women are showing qualities which you find attractive ( sexual poise and confidence? Liberation, Independence, leadership? ) and the idea that you could act as freely as they act in the film excites you? Perhaps you find it arrousing to feel naughty and seeing these women make you feel that way? Are you attracted to the somewhat submissive side of sexuality and find what these women are doing humiliating and thereby exciting to you? Just some thoughts for you to mull through as you watch.....but when it's all said and done with, as long as you are enjoying it, how much of that matters?
Warm Hugs,
Rachael

I've found that seeing a woman pleased turns me on too, and it's not because I wish I was doing the pleasing or that I wish a woman was pleasing me, but that I wish I was feeling as pleasured as that woman obviously is. Generally I'm not into the lesbian stuff but I can see how that might factor into it. Plus maybe, like Rachael said, seeing those qualities that you wish you had turns you on.

I know that for me, when I'm watching straight porn, I am just as turned on if not more watching the way the woman is reacting to the man (as opposed to watching the man) because it's her that I want to be, I want to be feeling the way she is.