Originally posted by: stephen
Question I have is dealing with strapons. I know there are more than enough of them in the market place, but which one is the best for comfort and use? Next question is for the women who wear them. How do you get the other half in my life to really enjoy using one? Know what i like talking is always the best way of getting what i really want.. With in the communication loop of our life..:)
Let's break this down. First question "but which one is the best for comfort and use?"
"Best" is a unique answer for each person. What my be best for one person may be horrid for another. And the comfort and use, do you mean for the person wearing it? If so, size of the harness is the first consideration. Get a harness that is too big and you'll never control the dildo. Get one that is too small and it will break, or worse, cut off circulation. You'll want to know the wearer's exact measurements before you make a purchase and buy the right size.
After that, choosing a good material is important. Leather harnesses are generally durable, but some people prefer plastics. It really boils down to comfort. A few companies make nylon strap harnesses which are also durable and can be padded. Tantus makes the "Feeldoe" which doesn't even require a harness.
Finally, you'll need to make sure that the harness can accomodate the dildo or vibrator you select. If you buy a vac-u-loc harness, it will only accomodate vac-u-loc dongs. O-ring style connections are usually the most versatile and durable.
As for the second question, it sounds like you could use the help of a certified sexologist. You can find a directory of sexologists from around the nation here:
American College of Sexologists . Sometimes, a little professional guidance is better than a lot of amateur speculation, which would be the best that I could offer. But if you want this that badly, a sexologist will be your best bet to guide you on what to discuss and how to discuss it, or help you and your partner to work this out together.
Best of luck in your efforts. On this one, the toy part is the easiest.
