swinging with friends

in Sex and Intimacy » Swingers and Threesomes • 3 years ago

Years ago me and my girlfriend tried a group thing with 2 friends and it did not go as well as planned. Not bad just kinda flopped with the other girl kinda backing out. Anyway that led to our engagment and 10 years later me and my wife are presented with the oppertunity to try it again. Same guy as last time ,different girl. While i am all for it, and my wife keeps mentioning it. (mostly because the other couple approached her first)I am the really kinky one in our relationship and the other girl is really wild. How does it work out when a swap is made and things are being done that never happen in your own home... Ex: bondage,anal, loud sex.
My wife is very sexual, i just want to make sure all goes well and everyone has a good time. i was going to suggest a dinner date with the other couple to discuss in depth what we all want out of this before we make any desicions to go away with them.......
I really want this to happen, suggestions ?

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mr_someth..

P.S

3 years ago

I would also like to mention that the other girl has showed interest in my wife although she is not sure how she feels about that yet. Are seperate rooms better for a swap or should it be a group thing where i can make sure all is well.
In a group i can watch her and make sure she's ok,but she has to see what i'm up to.
seperate rooms she wont have to see ,but i cant be there for her.
I'm not sure which way is best

iloveyou1..

Re: swinging with friends

3 years ago

I would suggest trying a small group session first. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate, it could start as a few drinks and some oral. If it goes further, great. If not take a step back and try to get a more mental intimacy before trying again.

k. in cle..

Re: swinging with friends

3 years ago

First and foremost you all have to be completely comfortable with this or it will not work out right. It sounds as if the other couple is in it together. Now you just have to make sure your wife is into it too. If not, don't do it.

If, however, all involved parties are ready, willing, and able, yes, have fun. It is always a good idea to set up a dinner date to discuss likes and dislikes in the bedroom... but more importantly, to discuss limits and what is and is not acceptable. I always suggest same room for the 1st time. If something is going weird, and the one who feels it for whatever reason does not want to say something, usually their mate can pick up on the vibes and hopefully right the situation. Also, if you're really into it, it is a lot of fun to see your partner gettin some action. It's almost like a personal porno movie..lol.

snakebabe

Re: swinging with friends

3 years ago

Originally posted by: mr something
..... How does it work out when a swap is made and things are being done that never happen in your own home... Ex: bondage,anal, loud sex....

Are you sure these things are going to happen? Is your wife letting you know these are a goal for her?
Is it that you want to be the first to do these things with your wife?
Are these things you want to do with your wife prior?
You only have one “First time’ and I understand that “Firsts” are a fun thing to share with a spouse.
Hugs and Hissessss,
Maria