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In my last post, I said my boyfriend broke up with me over facebook. He told me not to contact me or anything. He told me that he needed to get on with his life and that there was no going back. I needed to be my own woman, etc.
Well, I decided to write him a note, telling him thank you for all he did (he helped me with my anxiety issues, and stuck by me through alot) and that we needed this so we can live life to the fullest. I told him I wanted to talk, but on his own time. He later texted me saying thank you and that we would talk probably monday.
The day before we said we would talk, he texted me saying sorry. He told me he was sorry for breaking my heart like that, that he doesn't think it was a good idea anymore. I asked him if last friday had anything to do with it (the day before we broke up I was upset about something but I didn't look at him or respond to him in any way. When he said I love you I didn't say anything back because I was afraid I would break down and I couldn't allow myself to break once again in front of him) and he said it lit the fuse and that I should've talked to him. I really hurt him that day. It got him thinking I didn't need him anymore and that it would be best to break up. He chose facebook because I would be in a comfortable place when it happened, that if he would have called he wouldn't have said what he needed to say, and that he was downright scared. I told him that the next time he broke up with a girl, he needed to talk about it first. Breaking up over facebook wasn't fair.
He was really distraught that day. I tried to be cold, because I didn't want to be tricked again. I wanted him to think I was over him, which I wasn't.
While we were talking on IM, he told me he needed to say something, but that it would only confused me. I knew exactly what it was. He told me to call and say it first, and I did. I said "I love you" he said it back, and he told me he was afraid he lost me. We cried for a while.
All of this mess was the result of a massive miscommunication on both our parts. I didn't tell him why I was upset, and he didn't tell me that it hurt him and what he was thinking. We both agreed to talk next time, but there is a part of me that is scared that it will happen again.
All of my family thinks he is no good, and that I should just drop him. Only my mom knows what really happened, but she doesn't trust him yet. A lot of people think I should move on. After all, I'm going to college soon. But here's the thing: I think we really have a chance. I truly believe that if I can get a handle on my insecurities and be confident and communicate when I am upset, that we can last. We have been through hell and back together.
Maybe I'm naive. Maybe I am a victim of youth. But this breakup was the result of a failure on both our parts. We BOTH can do things to prevent it from happening again. The trick is I want my family to believe this with me. They see him as the bad guy in this. I don't know whether I should believe them or not. I don't believe them, not only because they don't know the whole story but also because I know him very well. We are best friends first and foremost.
Also, the entire school knows about it. We have both agreed to keep our distance and talk to other people, but it's getting harder and harder for both of us. It's hard for me to even look at him in the eye because I don't want anyone to see! I have to act cold as an act. I don't want to be cold. I would much rather act like nothing ever happened. I just don't want people to think I'm clingy, because that's why they think he broke it off.
So...what should I do? Am I doing the right thing by giving him another chance? This was our second breakup. Our first was because he was confused. If he wouldv'e broke it off for soley because he wanted to date other people or something like that, I would just drop it. But this is was a mistake on both our parts. I don't believe it's over yet. Should I give another chance even though we broke up twice already?
Well, I decided to write him a note, telling him thank you for all he did (he helped me with my anxiety issues, and stuck by me through alot) and that we needed this so we can live life to the fullest. I told him I wanted to talk, but on his own time. He later texted me saying thank you and that we would talk probably monday.
The day before we said we would talk, he texted me saying sorry. He told me he was sorry for breaking my heart like that, that he doesn't think it was a good idea anymore. I asked him if last friday had anything to do with it (the day before we broke up I was upset about something but I didn't look at him or respond to him in any way. When he said I love you I didn't say anything back because I was afraid I would break down and I couldn't allow myself to break once again in front of him) and he said it lit the fuse and that I should've talked to him. I really hurt him that day. It got him thinking I didn't need him anymore and that it would be best to break up. He chose facebook because I would be in a comfortable place when it happened, that if he would have called he wouldn't have said what he needed to say, and that he was downright scared. I told him that the next time he broke up with a girl, he needed to talk about it first. Breaking up over facebook wasn't fair.
He was really distraught that day. I tried to be cold, because I didn't want to be tricked again. I wanted him to think I was over him, which I wasn't.
While we were talking on IM, he told me he needed to say something, but that it would only confused me. I knew exactly what it was. He told me to call and say it first, and I did. I said "I love you" he said it back, and he told me he was afraid he lost me. We cried for a while.
All of this mess was the result of a massive miscommunication on both our parts. I didn't tell him why I was upset, and he didn't tell me that it hurt him and what he was thinking. We both agreed to talk next time, but there is a part of me that is scared that it will happen again.
All of my family thinks he is no good, and that I should just drop him. Only my mom knows what really happened, but she doesn't trust him yet. A lot of people think I should move on. After all, I'm going to college soon. But here's the thing: I think we really have a chance. I truly believe that if I can get a handle on my insecurities and be confident and communicate when I am upset, that we can last. We have been through hell and back together.
Maybe I'm naive. Maybe I am a victim of youth. But this breakup was the result of a failure on both our parts. We BOTH can do things to prevent it from happening again. The trick is I want my family to believe this with me. They see him as the bad guy in this. I don't know whether I should believe them or not. I don't believe them, not only because they don't know the whole story but also because I know him very well. We are best friends first and foremost.
Also, the entire school knows about it. We have both agreed to keep our distance and talk to other people, but it's getting harder and harder for both of us. It's hard for me to even look at him in the eye because I don't want anyone to see! I have to act cold as an act. I don't want to be cold. I would much rather act like nothing ever happened. I just don't want people to think I'm clingy, because that's why they think he broke it off.
So...what should I do? Am I doing the right thing by giving him another chance? This was our second breakup. Our first was because he was confused. If he wouldv'e broke it off for soley because he wanted to date other people or something like that, I would just drop it. But this is was a mistake on both our parts. I don't believe it's over yet. Should I give another chance even though we broke up twice already?
