Ask Dan & Jennifer

porn is just a fantasy, there's nothing wrong with fantasizing about girls

take it this way, there are some magazines for girls with all these muscular men in there and you would tend to say, dam he's hot or dam i'd tap that
but why can't a guy view porn and do the same?

you can confront your boyfriend if you want to knowing that he's gonna go back to it
but it's better to get it out rather than just having it stuck in your mind every single day.

this of course is just MY opinion
hope this helps
-jjdubbie:)

Its time to step up to the plate!

So he likes porn way too much? Here's something that those porn sites can't give him, you!

Yes you are your own weapon. When you think he's watching it, call him into the shower and have fun with him in it.

When you are at work. Text him some naughty stuff like you want to do this and that to him and only him.

Time to invest in some toys, maybe some costumes, (If you have a halloween costume thats like a sexy nurse or pirate, or anything sexy, use it)

When you're home and he's at work, check out the history and get ideas.

Now if its a lot more serious, its possible he could be a true porn addict and needs to see a therapist. Sit down with him and talk about it in a calm and adult manner.

"Sweetie, I love you very much and I want to be with you always, but there's something important we need to talk about...." and take it from there that you know about the porn intake and that you're worried that you think you're not enough for him, *Insert watery eyes* (If he really loves you and I'm sure he does) He'll see the distress and want to comfort you, yes you maybe angry but don't show it too much.

Hope this helps

I never wanted to look at pron when I was having sex. It was when I was getting no sex that I looked at porn.

that makes him attracted to porn. Most men can be in a healthy relationship they want to be in but still grave sexual variety. It's "normal" from a biological perspective.

Porn can be very healthy because it releases a lot of testosterone, dopamine and endorphins.

Originally posted by: Lovin'Lace
Its time to step up to the plate!

So he likes porn way too much? Here's something that those porn sites can't give him, you!

Yes you are your own weapon. When you think he's watching it, call him into the shower and have fun with him in it.

When you are at work. Text him some naughty stuff like you want to do this and that to him and only him.

Time to invest in some toys, maybe some costumes, (If you have a halloween costume thats like a sexy nurse or pirate, or anything sexy, use it)

When you're home and he's at work, check out the history and get ideas.

Now if its a lot more serious, its possible he could be a true porn addict and needs to see a therapist. Sit down with him and talk about it in a calm and adult manner.

"Sweetie, I love you very much and I want to be with you always, but there's something important we need to talk about...." and take it from there that you know about the porn intake and that you're worried that you think you're not enough for him, *Insert watery eyes* (If he really loves you and I'm sure he does) He'll see the distress and want to comfort you, yes you maybe angry but don't show it too much.

Hope this helps

I think this is the best advice that's been given so far.

Guys can say all they want about porn being normal, and overall it's true, porn is a fantasy that's completely normal. But when a guy watches more porn then he spends time with you, or he hides it from you, something is wrong.

And I bet part of the problem is that you didn't know he was watching it.

I know my boyfriend watches porn, and that makes me okay with it. But I hate it when he tries to be secretive about it.

Plus I can understand why that much porn can make you feel bad. A couple videos is one thing, but massive amounts of porn can make you feel like he doesn't need/want/love you as much. In that case, I agree with LovinLace's pity-party idea to bring it up.

Or, wanna do something sneaky? Next time he's in the shower, scan the internet for some porn that you might like. As he's getting out, make sure there's a video playing on the screen (make sure it's not something from his history). If you feel like, you can even touch yourself a bit. See his reaction when he comes into the room and catches you watching porn.

If he gets mad at you, you have instant reason to be absolutely pissed. He is not allowed to be hypocritical about it. In that case you can say that you saw he had lots of porn, so you thought it'd be fine if you watched some too. If he gets mad at you despite his own habits, you might have bigger problems on your hands.

But the more likely situation (and hopeful one) is that he'll be turned on by the whole scenario, it might even lead to a more passionate sex-life (although if he's watching the screen while he's doing you, turn it off!).
The fact that you're watching porn should make him feel like he can be more honest about his own habits, like it's not something he should hide.
It might even encourage him to want to watch porn with you; which can be a good thing if you're open to it. At least then the two of you can shape what each other likes. You can say "oh honey, lets not watch that one, I don't like that type" or whatever.

Anyways. The best option is to be honest with him. Ask him why he watches so much porn, and if it has anything to do with your relationship. If he feels you two need more variety or spice, he needs to let you know. Make sure he understands that you don't mind that he's watching it, but you just need to know you're still important to him and he still finds you sexy and attractive and wonderful, and if there's something he needs, that he lets you know and doesn't try to keep a secret porn world to make up for what he's missing.

Good luck!
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