Ask Dan & Jennifer

Adding additional partners into your relationship creates complications well beyond health concerns. Once you go down that path, there is no going back. You or your partner may feel cheated on. You may feel jealous. If you decide on a threesome etc. talk about this stuff before you start and be prepared to deal with some strong feelings.

It also sounds like your partner does not want a threesome as much as he is interested in multiple penetration. My BF loves to use plugs, dildos and gags during sex and I must admit I like it too. As much as we enjoy it, neither of us really want to bring another person into the room.

He has had threesomes and group sex. I have not. He says the guilt is unbearable. In fact to the point that he will not watch porn. If asked if it was good, he says "yes, but no". because of the guilt. He said that the multiple penetration was HOT, but he would not do it again. He says the toys would be HOTTER. WITH NO GUILT. No, he does not want to bring another person in. I really don't either, but I would love the multiple penetration. This works for you and him?

"Good as" is something that is determined in the eyes of the beholder. If an actual threesome produces guilt and shame, then the overall experience with toys would be much better than the overall experience with other people. Definitely, there are sensations that other people can produce that toys can't, otherwise no one would bother with threesomes. However, toys definitely avoid the complications that go with those activities. I guess my question is "What is the reason not to try the toys?" There's no risk of disease, jealousy, or conflict with other partners, so if that enhances your mutual satisfaction, I don't see a reason not too.

I agree completely with Beagle. If your boyfriend feels like a threesome would make him feel shameful and guilty the he is making his position very clear and boundaries should be respected. Why no enjoy the sex toys. It's not an issue of "good as". It's a different experience but one that can me a whole lot of fun!

My boyfriend and I are in a long-term committed relationship and neither of us wants to include other people in our sex life. Experimenting with toys/positions etc. help keep our uintimate life fresh and fun. Sometimes we try things that don't really work for one or both of us but we just chalk that up to experience and move on.

If there is another reason you don't want to use the toys, you should discuss it openly with youyr partner.

Good Luck!

as the people turn out be more open to the diverse sexual exploration ..i think it should be ok using sex toys for couples..and if your bf wants you to use them and of course you are comfortable with them ..then there is no point of objection in it...

NO comparison in toys and real people, in real people the physical relationship give full enjoy , toys not give full enjoy.