Vaginal Orgasm - Is it possible?

in Sex and Intimacy » Sex Tips and Advice • 3 years ago

Hi,
I am a newlywed and things couldn't be better. I am twenty four and my wife is thirty two. When we began seeing each other I was fairly sexually inexperienced, however my wife was in a long term relationship for 12 years before we got together; so she had a more developed sense of what it was that she wanted in the bedroom.
She was patient with me and taught me practically everything I know. We both feel like we have a very fulfilling sex life.
At first one of the major issues was that I could not make her orgasm during oral sex, however this is no issue. In fact she says that I am almost as good as her ex(which means a lot seeing as how we have only been together for a little over one year).
The one thing that bothers me very much is that she says she has never had a vaginal orgasm in her whole life and although she doesn’t admit it, regular intercourse is only physically pleasurable after she has had a clitoral orgasm during oral sex. Is there some technique that I can use to accomplish this. I've tried everything I can think of.
9 times out of 10 I give her oral sex before intercourse(which I enjoy very much); however it would be nice to get her to orgasm during intercourse if for no other reason than the fact that it is something that I can do unique for her.
I love my wife very much and we try not to have sex (like her ex made her do every), but rather make love only when both of us want it so it stays special. I just want her to be happy and I think that if it's at all possible this would be great for our sex life.

Thank You Very Much and I Appreciate What You Guys Do,

Josh in Akron

Replies(2)

scarbowl

According to studies I've seen, less than 1/3 of women achieve orgasm with just vaginal intercourse

3 years ago

According to most studies I've seen, less than 1/3 of women achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse (without added stimulation.)

In my personal experience, most women can achieve orgasm during intercourse if they stimulate the clitoris with their fingers or if a vibrator is used concurrent with the intercourse.

Actually, I enjoy feeling her fingers and/or the vibrations myself when she is doing this.

Don't fret over it. It's completely normal and she is in the majority. The idea of a vaginal orgasm is - according to some - a strictly male myth. There is no particular reason for a woman to orgasm without stimulation of the clitoris. It's like expecting you to orgasm by stimulating your nipples. Your body just isn't constructed that way and neither is a woman's.

The entire vaginal area IS connected but the clitoris is just the spot that most women need stimulated to have an orgasm.

Enjoy! (You don't have to go down on her every time.)

dennis_in..

Seduce her/prepare her by G-spot stim and more.

3 years ago

The G-spot, on the front side of the vagina in the first two inches is what gives vaginal orgasms. It needs to be excited ("warmed up") before it can contribute to an orgasm. Like a penis it gets engorged with blood and becomes more sensitive when aroused. Inserting one or two fingers into the vagina and moving it/them against this area helps cause this arousal.

I've found two fingers, angled a bit forward in her, with one in front of the other rather than side-by-side is good, because flicking them against each other, so the one in front rubs against/stimulates the G-spot, works well.

You can feel when the G-spot gets engorged, it gets sort of rough and swells some, filling that part of the entrance to the vagina more. She should feel it too -- as arousal.

It won't be instantaneous, but it may happen. While doing the G-spot stim, you can use your thumb on her clitoris, and even your ring finger knuckle against her anus (yes, that can excite her too). Those three spots can help her get excited -- sort of like you getting an erection -- which makes vaginal orgasms much more likely.