Ask Dan & Jennifer

hey there Gbaby, i have to say i know how you feel. Infact i think probably everyone here does. firstly congrats for finding a good place to ask this sort of question. i found out about dan and jennifer and their site less than a year ago. (i think i was in denial.) so a big thanks to you both Dan and Jennifer!! the fact that your looking for a place where you can ask questions and not just hear the gossip of people your age who probably don't know what their talking about when it come to things like this is great.

i don't think 14 is too young, especially if your a girl because girls tend to mature faster than boys. i have cousins who are younger than you by a few years and they're starting to become interested in boys too. and i started around middle school myself, although i have been denying it to the hilt up until the past year. so you're fine, don't worry about it.

second, again congrats on having the guts to want to buy a vibrator. i'm 19 and i still haven't gotten the guts to buy one. who you can ask, i really cant answer that for you. you have to find someone your comfortable with. i would really try your mom first though. or another relative but if i were your mom i found out that say your aunt bought you one with out her consenting, i think it would get ugly.

btw, many people do have trouble having an orgasm and half the time newbies don't know its the real thing. so it will probably take some time, so don't worry about it too much. just have some safe fun.

I think most sex shops are R18 or R21 and won't let you in. Besides, you won't get any judgments on ebay because know one can see you.

Having sexual urges at 14 is normal, even for a girl. Keep doing what you're doing and wait till you're in love to have sex.

For now, master the clitoral orgasm. Use the tips of your index and middle fingers and rubs in circles. You can also "milk" your clitoris by taking it between your thumb and index finger. Use grapeseed oil as lubricant.

Here's a diagram of your external clitoris:



Your clitoris is a the top of your vagina. When it gets "excited", it swells with blood, gets bigger and comes out from under your clitoral hood.

When it gets really excited, it gets even bigger and retracts under your clitoral hood. That means you're getting close to orgasm.

When you orgasm, you'll feel contraction around your clitoris, vagina and anus.

Hi Gbaby. Don't panic because it's completely normal for your age. Body chemistry differs from person to person but everyone goes on a hormonal imbalance specially during puberty. I support your idea, pleasuring yourself while waiting to be old enough and in love before trying to have sex.

I am 15 and what I us is probably like the closest thing to a vibrater (I think) but if you have a electric tooth brush tern it on and put it on your clit, it sounds like it will heart but it doesn’t and your mom wont know. just don’t put it back eww :eek: i hope I helped.