i have a friend who is also a friend of my husband. We occasionally work together. All three of us enjoy one another's company and i would like to take this to the sexual level, but still maintain our friendship and as professional colleagues; in fact, i think i know this person well enough that i would like it to be a long term arrangement. he is single and enjoys companionship; we have many things in common with the exception of politics, which is strange.
i have not spoken explicitly about this with my husband although he knows how much i enjoy the three of us spending time together. Our friend and i have talked about our friendship and even getting physical - but i don't know how to broach this with both men to get things out in the open. is this crazy? will i hurt my husband? or would it be possible to have a long term friendship that is occasionally physical?
my husband and i have been married for over 20 years and have had a pretty open relationship, although for the last 5 years have not had other partners.