Forever: That is about exactly my case. I had always been very successful at dating. I came out of a 13 year relationship in my 40's and it was suddenly very different. I met a woman from work, and we dated two years. Then I had changed jobs, one with no eligible women, and suddenly it's very hard to meet people. The other day I was thinking of who I knew that I would want to ask out and there was no one who came to mind.
Ultimately, dating is a number's game. If you meet enough people that you COULD date, you're going to find someone you want to date. I have had one real date in the last year. Right now, I can't think of anyone I really want to ask out. What's amazing is I'm a socially active person. It just seems that the people I meet aren't "datable." Objectively, I am trim and healthy, I'm not poor, and I'm not dumb so I don't think there's a "problem" that keeps me from dating; which sounds like the situation with you. I've considered using the internet to meet people but I'm just not very impressed with the feedback I get from people I know that have tried it. Frankly, I am at the point in my life where I'm content to live alone. I had rather not have a relationship than have an unsatisfying relationship. I would like someone to share my life with though. I'm not willing to settle just to have someone in my life.
Statistically, the odds of any two people being compatible enough AND having chemistry for each other to have a relationship is very small. At our age, you combine that with the very low number of single and datable people, and the odds of just running into the right person are pretty slim. In you're twenties, most of the people you meet are single so the odds work in your favor.
I wish I had a solution for you. All I can say is I'm in the same situation and I wish I had an easy answer. If you're younger, there are a lot of single people everywhere. If you're older, there's senior citizen centers and other areas where people "hook up." However, it is very difficult in middle age.
One thing I can tell you is that you won't meet the man of your dreams sitting at home. Unless, of course, you like the UPS guy. I understand volunteering is a great way to meet people. I'm very active in volunteerism, but unfortunately both of my volunteer organizations are almost all men. :confused: When my kid is older and I'm not as involved with him, I'm probably going to try to branch out somewhat. I think we both have to stay active, for our selves and for the opportunity to meet someone.
