Ask Dan & Jennifer

Dan and I talked for quite a while about how to respond to this post - because after all... our motto is to "Question Everything" - even our own beliefs and preconceived notions and beliefs.

Here's my thought on the topic. NOTHING and I mean nothing about about being conceived and being born are what we would consider enjoyable or easy. The beauty about childbirth is that it's usually so traumatic that we forget the whole process and bury it deep within our subconscious. Unfortunately, there are people such as yourself who are able to remember this trauma - in your case very very far back.

I'm just not comfortable telling everyone to stop having sex when they are pregnant because of your memories. My guess is that there are people out there who remember being suffocated in the womb because their mother was too fat, or ran too far, or worked too hard, or pick up a younger sibling...

Do you see where this line of thinking can quickly get out of hand so that we become paralyzed and return to the days when women were supposed to lay around and do nothing while pregnant - yet it's clearly been shown that babies are healthier and stronger when the mom is in good shape and takes care of her own emotional and physical health while she's pregnant - and I believe that sex is a very important part of her physical, emotional, and relational health.

I'm very sorry that you are having these memories and believe that they were intended to be forgotten. If they are remembered, you simply have to find a way accept what happened and to move forward. I'm not saying it's easy - but being transformed from spirit into the physical form was never intended to be easy. We are here to grow and learn and adapt.

Hi, Thanks for you honest and heartfelt reply. It is a breath of fresh air to have my experiences considered by you and this fresh air is more important to me than being right. I have prayed many times to be relieved of being the only one on this path and now my current wife is also experiencing these memories by following the simple tub snorkeling technique. So, if your open to dialogue, I am also. I assure you that as I started to tap into these memories, I realized it was going to be very lonely going as I came from a very pro-sex during pregnancy background. If I hadn't personally experienced what I have written, I wouldn't believe it either. For you to consider questioning your own stance on sex during pregnancy, it will take a great deal of courage and intimacy, intimacy far beyond what you have experienced on your sexual journey so far. Indeed, I believe that peoples passion in life is a reflexion of what they desire most to understand about themselves. For me, I became a chiropractor to understand my own pain but on the surface, get paid to keep everyone else out of pain so I didn't have to feel my own pain. With these memories, its a pain/pleasure complex as you stated about preganancy and birth in your reply. I believe we are condemned to repeat, that which we can't remember, or history repeats itself. So the memories you believe we are supposed to forget and have forgotten and are the subconscious, we keep repeating on the world stage. The pain/pleasure complex in each of us is unique and so in seeking out a mate, we draw someone to us equally suited to support us in our state of fuxation and we call it love. No matter how much we attempt to go forward, we unawaringly drag the past behind us. So my motto is rather than wait for these memories to curl me back up in the fetal position with arthritic joints in some resthome as I beleive I am moving forward, why not face and love my pain/pleasure complex. I could and will gladly share more if your hearts stay open, but enough for now, In love and light, I AM Dr. Jeff