what possibly could be more hurtful than being invovled in a love triangle?
i really feel for you sweetie. you are confused in every way you can imagine. you are not even clearly thinking straight.
if you had a friend that was in this situation, what advice would you give to their counsel?
take yourself out of this situation for a momment. try to not feel the emotions tide down to it. look at yourself and ask yourself how you should resolve this inner turmoil.
chances are that this man is not clear in his own choices of what he desires. he can not be any bennifet to you or her if he is clearly hurting himself by making this situation even possible.
sometimes people like the attention they get when they create this kind of environment. he is directly being made important by having two women play tug of war over him. this distracts him from the negative responses by being able to flip flop between you both. he isn't really doing himself any favors avoiding his own pain by masking it with the love triangle he created.
is this the kind of man you really desire? are you willing to suffer to no end for love that he'll take away when his desires crave another outlet? is this fair for either one of you ladies? is this fair to give into him so he can not really understand the actions his selfishness creates?
it should be clear to you by now that he is not mature. he doesn't have the compassion to really feel remorse. we all develope at different rates of time. maybe he has been reluctant to develop this, becuase he has never been made to feel the direct pain that his actions create.
i would hope that you would just let this man go. it's hard when you love someone, but he needs to feel the pain he has caused here. you can not improve this relationship by taking him back when he sees fit. you need more control here. he'll keep running you down, unless you put your foot down.
now, why would you ever let a person keep doing this to you? what kind of desperation do you have that enables yourself to sacrficed in this manner for his love? how did it come to be that you have to have this man in order to be complete?
look inside yourself and ask why you are scared to let him go? your answere will not be becuase it's him. your answere to this has nothing to do with him actually. it has to do with you being alone, unloved, and unhappy. you alone are the only person that can fill that void. once you find your way, you will be able to find someone that loves you, someone that enables happiness in your life, someone that inspires you to be better.... not someone whom requires you to beg for their attention...
it's very easy fro me to tell you this only because i have created and partook in these kinds of realtionships in my past. it's always easy to get the advice, but it's another story when it comes to finding it in yourself to take it.
in short, i reallty believe that at this time nothing good will come out of this by wanting / getting him back. the choice though is yours alone, and i hope that you will make a good one soon.
good luck...
~fawkse~
