What is offensive?

in Sex and Intimacy » Gay / Lesbian Sex and Dating • 2 years ago

This is more of a curiosity post than anything.

As a bisexual, I have found that there are many stereotypes and general insults that insult me that don't insult others and vice versa. I was wondering about how any of you fell, be you homosexual, heterosexual or bisexual.

One example is that I personally am just sick of the 'experimentation' stereotype surrounding bisexuals, that we aren't bisexual we just haven't decided.
Anyway, this extends to Katy Perry. Some bisexuals may be groaning around now. Anyway, her song 'I kissed a girl' reinforces this stereotype and yet is in the mainstream media. Ok, I know that some people might not find this offensive, I'm just saying my opinion. Any song with the lyrics (you're my experiment', 'not the way good girls should behave' etc in should not be considered inoffensive.
Anyway, I have been known to rant on for hours about this song. I just want to know what your opinions on these matters are.

Replies(4)

Beagle

Re: What is offensive?

2 years ago

Jasperky: I don't think that's a stereotype. I think songs of that nature are talking about people who are heterosexual yet experiment with same-sex activities. I don't think anyone is saying that you can't be bisexual.

The same way you've expressed your opinion on this forum is the same way an opinion was expressed in the song you mention. In reality, you are going to encounter a lot of opinions that you don't agree with.

As a straight man, I let it roll off my back when gay people make fun of straight people or make other comments. Sometimes, you've just got to be thick-skinned.

bijane

Re: What is offensive?

2 years ago

I'm with you on the experimentation point.
Personally, I count offensive as nothing. If people say 'gay' as an insult to someone, they're a bit stupid frankly. If someone 'plays like a girl' at a sport, that's a compliment. It might just be me, but what can you do? I never judge people by my own standards.

Beagle

Re: What is offensive?

2 years ago

Originally posted by: BiJane
I'm with you on the experimentation point.
Personally, I count offensive as nothing. If people say 'gay' as an insult to someone, they're a bit stupid frankly. If someone 'plays like a girl' at a sport, that's a compliment. It might just be me, but what can you do? I never judge people by my own standards.

BiJane: Let me welcome you to the forums. Thank you for your very constructive post. I read your blog intro, and I think you have a lot to offer people who are wondering about these issues. I think it is great that you are so comfortable with you sexual identity. I'm going to bet you're going to get a lot of questions from our readers who are in similar situations. I hope you remain on the forums.