What is the right amount of sex?

in Sex and Intimacy » Sex Tips and Advice • 3 years ago

My wife and I were just married a few months ago. We both had sex with other people before we met. However we waited and did not have sex before we were married. It was my idea because I wanted to show her that she was truly worth waiting for and was special. She had reservations at first on waiting, but has told me that she was glad we did in fact wait. We are only having sex a few times a month, maybe once a week (in a good month). I thought that as newly weds we would have sex a few time a day or at least once a day. Do you think I am doing something wrong or do some couples only have sex few time a month. Thank you for your help

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sam_in_ne..

Maybe she's not that sexual of a person.

3 years ago

Waiting to have sex says to your partner that you value all the other aspects of the relationship over sex. In my opinion, this is not always good. She may have interpreted your willingness to wait as a way of saying that sex is not that important to you. I could very possibly be wrong of course. I don't know any of the details of your relationship, but it might help if you try to express to her that you love her very much for the person she is, but you are also very physically attracted to her, and that you would like to have sex more often. If you pursue her in a thoughtful way, you may arouse her sexual side and promote a more active sex life. I might be completely off base, but it's an idea.

k. in cle..

Sex after marriage...

3 years ago

Well, your sex life can vary greatly depending on numerous factors. Sam has a valid point, she may just not think it's that important to you. Also, the amount of time you're at work or doing other activities can affect your sex life. If you work 30 hrs per week (Each of you) you're a lot more likely to have more sex than if you both work 60 hours per week. Work, school, working out, hobbies... these can all affect the amount of sex you have. Let's face it, as fun and pleasurable as sex is, it is also strenuous. When you are tired, you are much less likely to want sex.

If you don't believe any of these are your issue, talk to her. Tell her how much you love her and how you enjoy making love to her. Let her know you would like to have more intimate time with her. Also, ask her if there is anything you havent done together but she would like to try. Don't be afraid to ask if there's anything you can do differently for her. You have to make sure you are both having as much fun as possible in order to want to have sex.

I hope this helps.