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Well, first off I want to tell you this is not an uncommon problem. A lot of times, even though the mood is right and you've been looking forward to this moment for awhile, performance anxiety builds up and... well, you know what the result is. And yes, women can get anxious too, it just means less natural lubrication (and if nothing artificial is used, then less fun too,) rather than no erection.
Really, the best thing that the wife (or partner) can do here is to sex up her man. Give him a blow job, get him worked up. Maybe he really enjoys boobs... or butts.. give him what he likes. This can help him step up to bat so to speak :)

Also, check out this article complete with video, from Dan and Jenn Swinger Disaster – He Couldn’t Get It Up! Is All Lost? (Video)

Originally posted by: K. in Cleveland
Well, first off I want to tell you this is not an uncommon problem. A lot of times, even though the mood is right and you've been looking forward to this moment for awhile, performance anxiety builds up and... well, you know what the result is. And yes, women can get anxious too, it just means less natural lubrication (and if nothing artificial is used, then less fun too,) rather than no erection.
Really, the best thing that the wife (or partner) can do here is to sex up her man. Give him a blow job, get him worked up. Maybe he really enjoys boobs... or butts.. give him what he likes. This can help him step up to bat so to speak :)

Also, check out this article complete with video, from Dan and Jenn Swinger Disaster – He Couldn’t Get It Up! Is All Lost? (Video)

Thank you, K. I periodically check the Unanswered Questions tab to make sure no one needing help has fallen through. I saw this one some time ago and I had no idea how to respond. I've been feeling bad because I couldn't help. Your advice makes perfect sense. I'm glad you're back!