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I've been having relationship problems with this girl I've been seeing. I'm 21 , and she's 17. We aren't an exclusive couple anymore but apparently she wants to work it out and give it another try, and on top of that it's a 4 hour long distance relationship. I know right? Most would say move on, or long distance relationships don't last. I'm not saying I GOT to have her. Matter of fact I would live without her. But she's important to me and I honestly do love this girl. But after Christmas, we practically fought all the time over the phone. And it was about stupid crap that she would bring up. For instance, she says I'm starting to look sick from workout so much. I only workout 3 days a week, and she use to say that she loved my muscles, so what's going on here? She even asked that I stop working out, wish I found very selfish of her to even ask that I quit something that's important to me. We fought about this several times. She mades out like I would leave her for the gym, saying it might as well be another woman. She's told me to grow up in some occasions. Also saying she's more mature than I could dream about. She is a very responsible girl, I will give her that, but she's just not logical. I tell her she's needs to as well and she twists my words and thinks I've said I'm more mature than she is when I didn't even mean that at all! And she seems to run to her mom and make me look like the bad guy, which intern makes her mom pissed at me when she shouldn't be in the first place. She even says I try to make everything about me, when she does the exact same thing herself. Which is probably why we butt heads all the time. But it wasn't always like this. I don't know if she just kept thinking about this stuff and kept thinking about it till it became a huge problem for her or what?

Now that we are "trying" (I'm using it as a loose term here) to make things better, I feel as if she's stringing me along. And I've told her time and time again, "If you don't want me or if seeing someone else, just say so! I will live." And she says it's not that at all. She says she loves me and misses me, but when I offer to come up she turns it down, saying school is overwhelming her since this is her last year of high school. I can understand that to an extent, but people find time for those that are important to each other. And if she was seeing someone else, she wouldn't keep trying to come back; not to mention she keeps insisting that she does love me. She says just let her sort out the school crap first and we'll go from there. I've learned that anything worth having is worth waiting for, and I can wait. Thing is, should I wait for this girl or should I forget it and find someone else? And another thing, I know it's kind of hard to make a base decision on someone you don't know, does this girl seem genuine? I would like to wait for this girl, but if I'm wasting my time then I need to know. What can I do to turn this around where we don't fight all the time. I don't want to come off as if I'm saying I'm right she's wrong. I'm writing this because I don't want to fight with her and I'd like to get back to the way things were between us. I'd like to be able to turn this around to where she doesn't pick stupid fights about topics that shouldn't even matter.

I just have no earthly idea what this girl wants. Yeah yeah, she's 17, what should I expect right?