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Are you relaxed before having sex?

Can you give your self an orgasm?

Do you know where the special spots are to either have him or your self get you to orgasm?

Originally posted by: Xero
Are you relaxed before having sex? sometimes i am and most of the times i'm not.

Can you give your self an orgasm? I can but its very hard at times.

Do you know where the special spots are to either have him or your self get you to orgasm?

I don't guess i do.

Alright, for sex your going to have to be relaxed. No matter what it takes or your probably not going to be satisfied.

Below are the videos that show you all the important spots and how to reach them with fingering. You can do the same with the penis. The C spot is fingers only anyway.
The G spot he can hit with his penis but it could be challenging (I have no experience I'm a virgin). He can finger both the G and C spots and get you to orgasm. If you have to "pee" at any time it's not pee it's cum that comes from a female it's the orgasm. You can have him switch it up so it's not boring and it will probably turn you on more.

If sex becomes too rough then you could use lube. Especially if fingering becomes rough. None of this should hurt, so tell him to be gentler if it begins to become a problem.

You might become ticklish or really excited before orgasm and want him to stop. You should let him to continue because you are about to climax.

If you have any questions just ask. I probably forgot something or if I skipped part of your question just post again. I'm just trying to get this all out because its on my mind currently.

Originally posted by: FemaleOrgasm
YouTube - Female orgasm | C spot | Clitoris| Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | G spot | Female ejaculation | Squirting | Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | A spot | Demonsration with rubber vagina

Originally posted by: Xero
Are you relaxed before having sex?

Can you give your self an orgasm?

Do you know where the special spots are to either have him or your self get you to orgasm?

REPLY: i myself am kind of in the same position, however, i feel it but dont get that orgasm. Is there something wrong with me? I am relaxed by the way.

Originally posted by: tosha in georgia
why is it so hard for me to have an orgasm?

You could have weak orgasm muscles - do kegel exercises to strengthen them

Your husband has poor technique - watch this video: A spot orgasm | Deep spot | Anterior fornix

You're to stressed out about sex or life in general - do emotional freedom techniques: YouTube - Emotional Freedom Techniques - EFT - Learn in 5 minutes!

Your husband lacks "sexual dominance" - only he can change that.

Some times its causes can be due to some sexual disorder or hormone imbalance can be a reason. It can be treated for this people can try drugs and mostly people used also.

1.... are you aroused..2 is your husband a caring lover.3 do you communicate.by that i mean do you tell him what feels good.4 try long ,slow relaxed foreplay,kissing ,stroking etc you need to build the tension slowly and gently,you need to relax and enjoy the feeling and not stress too much about the orgasm ,