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Ok so for starters we are both in or early 20s and have been going through a break up to make up pattern for 2 ½ years now and each time I feel that this is her way of dealing with the stress. We were good friends for about 2 years before we got together so we talked about a lot of personal stuff over those years and she’s even said herself with every boyfriend she’s had in the past, it last anywhere from 2-6 months and there is always something that pisses her off and cause her to leave them. As for me the last long term relationship (different girl btw) I was in was years ago, be gaining senior year/end of high school, and it came to a end due to her cheating me after that I spent 3 years dating but nothing exclusive until me and Stephanie got together.
Now as far as past break ups go, 3 in total it has always been something I wasn’t doing right and her being unhappy and I don’t want to say she has always been quick to end it but it is never far behind. And the explanation is always her happiness come before anyone and anything else as to where im the one that wants to slow things down a bit and works out the problems before we get to the break up part
With this last break up it has two parts we broke up due to lack of passion, we broke up and then made up after three days or so. After we made up I found out that the lack of passion which caused her to have some late nights online while I was putting our son to sleep and getting ready for the next day of work., and as most late nights online goes, it resulted in her cybering and trading pictures and phone sex which she knew from the start wouldn’t fly with me. After she got caught up she confessed that it started a week before we broke up and continued for three days after we made up and then she put a end to it, she failed to tell me about all this during the brake up because she knew how I would react, she feels cybering and phonesex is ok and far from cheating yet I don’t feel that way myself, I feel u should treat ur partner the way u want to be treated and I would never disrespect my partner that way.
So we fraught and forgave her to a point and decided to try to work it out. About two to three weeks later I found a text talking to some asshole about how she is running her finger across his chest and down to undo his pants. Well this resulted in me waking her up after a night if unbelievable sex to confront her and she started crying sayn I was acting controlling and jealous and she couldn’t deal with it so it was over.
Since then we move on to the if we do get back together at some point it’s gonna take time. I know for a fact the feelings are still there and even after all this when we’re together it feels just like before the problems came around, happy and problem free, but now it’s a matter of if the risk of another break up is worth trying it again, and at this point she says she is unsure if she wants to take the risk of crying over us again. I know I made mistakes and while I spend my time thinking about the matter at hand and trying to found ways to break this cycle she spends her time picking up where she left off, still cybering trading and having phone sex, and I feel as if im the only one putting thought it to this and the us that may or may not happen again. She says she is 50/50 on it and has been putting thought into it but she is at a standstill, yet her actions say otherwise to me.
At this point I don’t know where to go, what to think, are even how to go about making a choice….
I will be grateful fro any help and advice..Thank you for ur time
Sorry I there are some errors in my message, the whole time im typing this my son has been pounding on the back of my screen lol
Rick.
Now as far as past break ups go, 3 in total it has always been something I wasn’t doing right and her being unhappy and I don’t want to say she has always been quick to end it but it is never far behind. And the explanation is always her happiness come before anyone and anything else as to where im the one that wants to slow things down a bit and works out the problems before we get to the break up part
With this last break up it has two parts we broke up due to lack of passion, we broke up and then made up after three days or so. After we made up I found out that the lack of passion which caused her to have some late nights online while I was putting our son to sleep and getting ready for the next day of work., and as most late nights online goes, it resulted in her cybering and trading pictures and phone sex which she knew from the start wouldn’t fly with me. After she got caught up she confessed that it started a week before we broke up and continued for three days after we made up and then she put a end to it, she failed to tell me about all this during the brake up because she knew how I would react, she feels cybering and phonesex is ok and far from cheating yet I don’t feel that way myself, I feel u should treat ur partner the way u want to be treated and I would never disrespect my partner that way.
So we fraught and forgave her to a point and decided to try to work it out. About two to three weeks later I found a text talking to some asshole about how she is running her finger across his chest and down to undo his pants. Well this resulted in me waking her up after a night if unbelievable sex to confront her and she started crying sayn I was acting controlling and jealous and she couldn’t deal with it so it was over.
Since then we move on to the if we do get back together at some point it’s gonna take time. I know for a fact the feelings are still there and even after all this when we’re together it feels just like before the problems came around, happy and problem free, but now it’s a matter of if the risk of another break up is worth trying it again, and at this point she says she is unsure if she wants to take the risk of crying over us again. I know I made mistakes and while I spend my time thinking about the matter at hand and trying to found ways to break this cycle she spends her time picking up where she left off, still cybering trading and having phone sex, and I feel as if im the only one putting thought it to this and the us that may or may not happen again. She says she is 50/50 on it and has been putting thought into it but she is at a standstill, yet her actions say otherwise to me.
At this point I don’t know where to go, what to think, are even how to go about making a choice….
I will be grateful fro any help and advice..Thank you for ur time
Sorry I there are some errors in my message, the whole time im typing this my son has been pounding on the back of my screen lol
Rick.
