Why do I feel like this? Please help..

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 2 years ago

Ok, I met my boyfriend in October of 2008, and we started dating the middle of December. He moved the beginning of the summer to GA for work/school while i'm still in MO. Recently we've started talking about getting married. (within the past month or so) Not anytime soon, just about if we got married what we'd want. I truly believe he is the man I love and will spend the rest of my life with.

Within the past few days, i've started feeling like I don't want to be around him -- we argue constantly, I avoid his phonecalls, and just don't want to talk to him in general. I sort of feel smothered, but I don't want to lose him, I love him more than anything. I told him we should take tonight to think about our lives and what we want and if the other will fit into that without having to change their entire life, and those sorts of things.

Why am I feeling like this? Is it because we're moving too fast? I'm definitely not getting married for another 4-5 years, but could it just be the wedding talk? We talk about everything, and he understands what i'm going through, but I don't know what to do. Is it normal for me to be feeling this? Will we get through it?

I guess I really don't know what my question is, other than I feel like a horrible person for feeling this way, is it normal?

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Xero

Re: Why do I feel like this? Please help..

2 years ago

It's completely normal. Just give it some time to pass and just keep things cool on your side. You should talk to him though even if it upsets you because hes going to be the one to change your mood back to the happy fun mood. (yea that's it... lol)

It happens to me all the time. I'll be happy one moment then completely pissed off about something my GF did. Then after a little while ill feel better and miss talking to her. Then when she talks to me I feel a lot better about myself.

Find some type of stress released and you will feel a lot better. Anything that releases stress.

Hopefully this helps

reluctant

Long distance takes a toll

2 years ago

It sounds like the both of you are trying to make a long distance relationship work over the phone. There is nothing more real than the chemistry that takes place in person, could it be that its a combination of being apart, not getting his face to face chemistry and also talking about serious questions of the future? Just my opinion but it sounds like you just plain miss him and dont want to deal with the future until you have the here and now under control. Not wanting to take his calls are normal, something inside you wants to work it out with you first...this is not particularly a bad thing, find out where you stand first, then he will fall back into the picture....