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I'm not totally sure, but I think it would adjust and become bigger.

For the anus that can be stretched as well I think, I think it can cause leakage.
I would use lots of lubricant for anal becasue if that tissue is broken it can get infected really easily and cause problems.

I have the same question about anal sex; with proper stretching and lube, is it safe? Does it permanently stretch your rectum and/or cause problems down the road, like anal leakage?

i wouldn't do this. It can cause injury to the sphincter. Also, you'll end up with a nasty stretched out asshole with prolapsed hemorrhoids, etc.

A dick or a dildo should be enough.

In response to the two people who already replied to my post:

When I asked about anal sex, I was asking about exactly that, anal sex, NOT anal fisting! My question in that respect was if regular anal sex causes any permanent damage if done properly.

My question is more specifically about vaginal fisting. Replies with "I'm not sure, but.." aren't very helpful, but thanks for trying.

Doesn't anybody have an answer for me?

1: American Journal of Forensic Pathology 1989 Mar;10(1):73-5.
Vaginal "fisting" as a cause of death.
Fain DB, McCormick GM.

Forensic Pathologists, Inc., Bossier City, LA 71111.

We describe the death of a young girl that resulted from the insertion of a clenched hand and forearm into her vagina during heterosexual activity. (The male homosexual practice of rectal fist insertion has been described previously.) We believe this death to be the first reported case of a "fisting" death due to vaginal fist insertion during heterosexual activity. This death is reported to alert forensic pathologists, medicolegal death investigators, and coroners aware of the role of aberrant sexual activity and its potential to cause death.

Beagle, I wanted to let you know that the article about death cause by vaginal fisting was NOT helpful to me in any way. This is a sexual act that people practice, and I wouldn't be surprised if that death was one of very few, and was caused by rape or abuse.
Do you want me to say to my partner, "Please dont put your fingers in there, you might kill me,"? Giving out advice like yours can be a huge sexual deterrent to people who aren't smart enough to ignore it. Consider yourself lucky that I'm not a young, impressionable girl who doesn't know better than to never let a man put a finger in my vagina again.
Thanks for the bad advice.

Normal anal sex, if performed properly, will not cause any of the problems you described.

As for vaginal fisting...unless your pregnant and dilating, I wouldn't.

It hasn't been more than a day since I asked this question, but I feel like so far I have gotten AWFUL advice on the topic, from an article about death by vaginal fisting, to "unless you're pregnant and dilating, I wouldn't."
Okay, how about knowing what you're talking about before you give advice?

After getting annoyed with the awful advice I got here, I did more research into the topic. Here is what I found at The "Cindy and Joe" Data Archive.
There are many medical problems where fisting should not be done. Mostly these are not so common, but they exist. Sometimes previous surgery, low hormones, infections, radiation treatments, and advanced age can be contraindications altogether.
As to loss of sensation, most who practice Kegel exercises do not experience that. If you wish your wife to be very tight at times, and at other times do fisting, make sure she does enough Kegel exercises every day to maintain that ability.
Those who do not do exercises are more apt to have a possible looseness and trouble feeling a penis as well as before. Many couples that do fisting do not mind that at all. If they do, these couples usually use a "spoon position" with the penis and a hand "both" in the vagina at the same time. That way they avoid diminished sensation problems and both can get stimulation at the same time.
So in summary I don't feel that I have experienced any negative effects of fisting, even though my cunt has become loose as a result of my failure to do the Kegel exercises consistently.
Now as to physical benefits, that is mostly in making it easier for childbirth with less likelyhood of tears and surgery at that time. Specifically with those who do regular associated Kegels (as many do) it helps with vaginal tone and sometimes with the bladder function. It is often helpful in those who suffer constipation.
For women who like fisting, they tell me that it is the very best sex they've ever had, by a significant margin. :-)


I really hope that those who replied to my post trying to help in turn help themselves to understand that when giving advice, make sure that it is CORRECT. Please. It appears that most of the questions on this site are asked by impressionable, unknowledgable, young people, and I do NOT want to see them getting bad advice! Back it up with evidence and make sure that your answer is, indeed, a correct one.

Well, I'm not mad or anything but let me state this.

1. We are not paid.
2. We can only help with what we know our selves.
3. We usually try to give the best advice that we can.
4. Most of us are in our teens to maybe 60's :o :p .
5. Most of us don't have a degree in anything. Usually not close to anything sex related.

I'm not mad, just want you to be aware of this factor. My disclaimer was put there for a reason. I do apologize for not being to answer your question fully, I do try my best with everything I know though.

Just trying to help as much as I can.
Please understand that I am trying to give you the best opinion that I can think of.
You can take my advice or leave it as you please.

I'm glad that you aren't mad, because if you were, you'd have to be psychotic! Mad at what, the fact that I answered my own question a million times better than any of you did? Mad that I'm upset about getting some extremely bad advice? Mad about the fact that I gave you criticism for being a 19 yr old that feels like he has to answer every post, even if its from a 60 yr old man asking about erectile dysfunction?
If you don't know the correct answer, DON'T ANSWER! Its that simple. If you answer with the wrong advice, people will believe you and go on thinking that you are right. If you answer with an answer that isn't helpful, you're hurting that person's chance to get other replies with a correct answer because it looks like their question was already answered.

1. We are not paid.
I know you aren't paid, neither am I, and I answered a bunch of questions today with extremely helpful, correct information.
2. We can only help with what we know our selves.
No, actually, you have access to the most amazing information ever - its called the internet, and thats what I used to get the right answers. If you aren't beyond a doubt positive that your info is the truth, research it yourself before you tell it to someone else, and make sure your research is correct too, because the internet also provides lots of wrong information.
3. We usually try to give the best advice that we can.
But you give advice even if it isnt helpful at all. That doesn't help.
4. Most of us are in our teens to maybe 60's .
So let the 60 yr olds answer the 60 yr old questions!
5. Most of us don't have a degree in anything. Usually not close to anything sex related.
I have a degree and 11 years on you, I've got a feeling I know a ton more about this stuff than you do, and I plan to join you in answering more people's questions on this site.

Sorry to critique you and upset you but I really felt like you needed some advice yourself! If you can dish it you should be able to take it. Thanks for hearing me out and have a great day!

Originally posted by: MountainGirl

2. We can only help with what we know our selves.
No, actually, you have access to the most amazing information ever - its called the internet, and thats what I used to get the right answers.

Then I guess you came to the wrong place for the right answers then. Why didn't you just google.

Although your vagina will be more elastic.

My wife and I have been enjoying fisting for around 4 years now. Her not me, LOL. Although there has been a very slight loosening and just a slight difference in her lips, we would not stop for the world. She now has extreme orgasms and at times squirts!
Our advice to anyone would be try it....:)

I would assume that would hurt!! It doesnt' hurt?? Wow!! I gotta find more information on this subject!!