your friend dateing ex girl friend

in Love and Relationships » Love and Romance • 3 years ago

my name is chris and im here to ask for some answers. first of all i will say me and my ex were going out for a year in a hafe then we broke up because we were fighting about things and we had my friend wich is a guy that we did hang out with. out of the last 8 months we were toghther. he would flirt with her she did not see it. then we broke up like i said. she said she cares about how i feel. but my friend moved in on her after 2 months we broke up. and it hurt me is that wrong for a guy friend to do that when you had a long past with your girl friend pluss your friend ????
thanks chris

Replies(5)

danandjen..

It's OK for it to hurt, but if you're not dating, they're free to date anyone

3 years ago

Hi Chris,

Of course it hurts, we're human... and we feel the loss of the break up and we're jealous of the new person with our ex partner. That's only human. And our ego tries to control them, so if they try to date a friend of ours, we try to put pressure on the friend to not date them.

But honestly, who does that help? Nobody. It's just an ego-serving act, based in jealousy. Again, only human. LOL

But once you're no longer together, you got no claim on who she dates. After all, she's going date someone, and so is he... why not date people you already know?

No it's not "wrong" for them to date. It's just hard for our human egos to accept the new relationship because of unresolved internal issues.

However, your friend flirting with your girlfriend while you were still with her is NOT cool.

brokenhea..

Re: your friend dateing ex girl friend

3 years ago

yeah its rediculously fucked up that he was flirting with her while you guys were dating, i would have kicked his ass for that or at least called him out on it.....but if they like each other then you cant keep them apart and your just going to lose both of them if you try to control it

confused_..

nicely said

3 years ago

well put brokenhearted20m. unfortunately we cant controll who they date. i know it's really hard to move on when we know that someone close to you is with a girl you truly care about. it almost feel like u got something snatched from u doesn't it? theres really not much you can do about this situation, people are gonna do what people want

chrisairw..

ok

3 years ago

well got you i know i said this on the other fourm but ill say it here to big time here go and read this 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/true-storey-that-needs-help-i-need-advice-if-you-can'
i know its long yes but if you want to know where i am really comeing from on the lots of ?s i have what i have gone threw and whats going on in today of my life. well there you go i will also tell you that well really it has messed me up to have other realshionships so yea thanks all for the info
chris

chrisairw..

i forgot

3 years ago

well you know what i wish someone can post on youtube or post thats a sucky thing to do to another friend and when your with someone not to do that kind of crap to them.